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©2008-2012 Roedy Green, Canadian Mind Products

A number of studies of homeless youth in big cities put forth a startling statistic: Depending on the study, somewhere between 30 and 40 percent of homeless youths identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.
~ Margot Adler (born: 1946-04-16 age: 65) Young, Gay And Homeless: Fighting For Resources

Most plain girls are virtuous because of the scarcity of opportunity to be otherwise.
~ Maya Angelou (born: 1928-04-04 age: 83)

In the spirit of tolerance, you should allow us to execute homosexuals.
~ David Bahati (born: 1973-08-06 age: 38) Ugandan politician promoting a kill the gays bill designed by the C-street American lobby group. He also proposes a three year prison sentence for just knowing a gay person. He believes there gays and pedophiles are one in the same. He considers execution a “beautiful loving” punishment.

It isn’t premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.
~ Matt Barry (born: 1962 age: 49)

Grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be,
The last of life, for which the first was made:
~ Robert Browning (born: 1812-05-07 died: 1889-12-12 at age: 77) Rabbi Ben Ezra aka Grow old along with me

As a mother, I know that homosexuals cannot biologically reproduce children; therefore, they must recruit our children.
~ Anita Bryant (born: 1940-03-25 age: 71)

In may own case, I knew I was gay six years before I met my first gay person. I sought him out not the reverse. I am pretty sure that harpies like Ms. Bryant drive thousands more gays away from women than any gay has ever managed to recruit.

Brigands demand your money or your life; women require both.
~ Samuel Butler (born: 1835-12-04 died: 1902-06-18 at age: 66)

I have often wanted to drown my troubles, but I can’t get my wife to go swimming.
~ President Jimmy Carter (born: 1924-10-01 age: 87) 39th president of the USA.

I wouldn’t keep him around long if I didn’t feed him well.
~ Julia Child (born: 1912-08-15 died: 2004-08-13 at age: 91)

It’s amazing how little people will settle for when they are in love.
~ Raymond Clandillon in Midsomer Murders They Seek Him Here played by Desmond Barrit (born: 1944-10-19 age: 67)

And clenching your first for the ones like us
Who are oppressed by the figures of beauty.
~ Leonard Cohen (born: 1934-09-21 age: 77) Chelsea Hotel

If you’ve got it, flaunt it.
~ Leonard Cole (born: 1920 age: 91)

You are not responsible for what your friends do, but you will be judged by the company you keep.
~ Leonard Cole (born: 1920 age: 91)

The human race has been set up. Someone, somewhere, is playing a practical joke on us. Apparently, women need to feel loved to have sex. Men need to have sex to feel loved. How do we ever get started.
~ Billy Connolly (born: 1942-11-24 age: 69)

The human flaw hardest to fix is a sense of entitlement.
~ Joyce Cousins

Errol Flynn died on a 70-foot boat with a 17-year-old girl. Walter has always wanted to go that way, but he’s going to have to settle for a 17-footer with a 70-year-old.
~ Betsy Maxwell Cronkite (born: 1916-01-25 died: 2005-03-15 at age: 89)

The best mannered people make the most absurd lovers.
~ Denis Diderot (born: 1713-10-05 died: 1784-07-31 at age: 70) French philosopher

As the most religious country of the 18 surveyed, the U.S. also comes in with the highest rates for teen pregnancy and for gonorrhea and syphilis. (A sidelight: boys who participate in sexual abstinence programs are more likely to get their partners pregnant, presumably because they are in denial about what they are doing.)
~ Gwynne Dyer (born: 1943-04-17 age: 68)

When love is in excess it brings a man no honor nor worthiness.
~ Euripides (born: 484 BC died: 406 BC at age: 78) in Medea

The Catholic hierarchy want to refuse contraception to a rape victim, sometimes someone beaten then raped, sometimes a woman or girl who can’t speak English. And no abortions, not even after a rape.
~ Sean Faircloth (born: 1960 age: 51)

We are gonna to have to choose as a nation between the homosexual agenda and freedom because the two cannot coexist. Every advance of the homosexual agenda, comes at the expense of liberty, particularly religious liberty.
~ Bryan Fischer head of The American Family Association

This is Orwellian language. He is claiming that gays having the right to marry or serve in the military somehow impairs his freedom. How pray tell? He avoids even being in the same room with gays so he unlikely to be invited to same-sex wedding. He is far too old for military service, so he won’t run into any gays in that context. Perhaps his freedom to force his fundamentalist religious beliefs on others. Perhaps he is thinking of more fundamental freedoms, to go gay bashing, or in other ways persecute gays for amusement.

A man’s heterosexuality will not put up with any homosexuality, and vice versa.
~ Sigmund Freud (born: 1856-05-06 died: 1939-09-23 at age: 83)

Homosexuality is assuredly no advantage, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, no vice, no degradation, it cannot be classified as an illness.
~ Sigmund Freud (born: 1856-05-06 died: 1939-09-23 at age: 83)

How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.
~ Sigmund Freud (born: 1856-05-06 died: 1939-09-23 at age: 83)

I think the fact that I’m so well known to be gay makes it very difficult to have a convincing relationship with a woman on screen. It wouldn’t be at all difficult for me to kiss a woman — I’ll kiss a frog if you like…
~ Stephen Fry (born: 1957-08-24 age: 54)

That one can love another of the same gender, that is what the homophobe really cannot stand.
~ Stephen Fry (born: 1957-08-24 age: 54)

You don’t sit down and write a wish list about the person you are going to fall violently in love with. It just doesn’t work like that.
~ Stephen Fry (born: 1957-08-24 age: 54)

The unnatural, that too is natural.
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (born: 1749-08-28 died: 1832-03-22 at age: 82)

I don’t look like Halle Berry. But chances are, she’s going to end up looking like me.
~ Whoopi Goldberg (born: 1955-11-13 age: 56)

Normal is nothing more than a cycle on a washing machine.
~ Whoopi Goldberg (born: 1955-11-13 age: 56)

The US government should not be in the business of discrimination.
~ Christine Gregoire (born: 1947-03-24 age: 64) Governor of Washington State

The government discriminates in issuing marriage licences. Refusing licences to gay people is the same as refusing them to Hispanics or blacks. Americans are violating their own constitution by enforcing Christian anti-gay superstitions in law. They are imposing the Christian religion on everyone. There is no other serious reason for the discrimination.

Let women figure out why they won’t sleep with you. Don’t do their work for them.
~ Sam Halpern played by William Shatner (born: 1931-03-22 age: 80) on Shit my Father Says

This is wise advise to gays as well. Don’t try to calculate whether someone should like you. Look for the signs whether they actually do or not. Sometimes, striking people you think would have no interest in you do, and sometimes people you think should feel graced by your presence find you repulsive. There is no accounting for taste.

Poor Fred [Phelps] — he’s actually working on a typo, and somebody ought to tell him. Twice in the New Testament Jesus withered fig trees, Isaiah withered a fig tree, and there’s another place in the Old Testament — I think it—s in Psalms — where a fig tree was withered. God hates figs, not fags!
~ Thom Hartmann (born: 1951-05-07 age: 60)

Music played at weddings always reminds me of the music played for soldiers before they go into battle.
~ Heinrich Heine (born: 1797-12-13 died: 1856-02-17 at age: 58)

We put this 15-year old girl on the cover of a fashion magazine, and tell everyone she is the epitome of sexual perfection, but we jail anyone who touches her for another three years.
~ Gregory House played by Hugh Laurie (born: 1959-06-11 age: 52) TV MD, paraphrased from memory.

Almost all absurdity of conduct arises from the imitation of those whom we cannot resemble.
~ Samuel Johnson (born: 1709-09-18 died: 1784-12-13 at age: 75)

Homosexuality is a discovery, not a choice or a sin.
~ Vangie Jones

If biologists so often forget the most universal of all biologic principles [variation], it is not surprising that men and women in general expect their fellows to think and behave according to the pattern that may fit the law-maker, or the imaginary ideals for which the legislation was fashioned, but which are ill-shaped for all real individuals who try to live under them.
~ Alfred Kinsey (born: 1894-06-23 died: 1956-08-25 at age: 62)

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheeps and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white.
~ Alfred Kinsey (born: 1894-06-23 died: 1956-08-25 at age: 62)

The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform.
~ Alfred Kinsey (born: 1894-06-23 died: 1956-08-25 at age: 62)

The very general occurrence of the homosexual in ancient Greece, and its wide occurrence today in some cultures in which such activity is not taboo suggests that the capacity of an individual to respond erotically to any sort of stimulus, whether it is provided by another person of the same or opposite sex, is basic in the species.
~ Alfred Kinsey (born: 1894-06-23 died: 1956-08-25 at age: 62)

Are you better off with him or without him?
~ Ann Landers (born: 1918-07-04 died: 2002-06-22 at age: 83) pen name for Eppie Lederer.

I believe the nearest I’ve come to perfect love was with a young coal-miner when I was about 16.
~ David Herbert Lawrence (born: 1885-09-11 died: 1930-03-02 at age: 44)

One is that if women’s sexuality in Africa wasn’t under assault, if women were able to say no, if women weren’t subject to predatory attacks by men, or predatory behaviour generally, then you would have a disease in Africa called AIDS (Acquired Immuno-Deficiency Syndrome). But you wouldn’t have a pandemic.
~ Stephen Lewis (born: 1937-11-11 age: 74)

Abstinence-only education — the best STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) and pregnancy delivery system that politicians have ever devised.
~ Rachel Maddow (born: 1973-04-01 age: 38)

Scientists discovered that abstinence-only education results in even more STDs and pregnancy than no sex education at all. Republicans love it anyway, because they imagine it should work.

But my deepest and most secret love belongs to the fair-haired and the blue-eyed, the bright children of life, the happy, the charming and the ordinary.
~ Thomas Mann (born: 1875-06-06 died: 1955-08-12 at age: 80)

My vegetable love should grow
Vaster than empires, and more slow;
~ Andrew Marvell (born: 1621-03-31 died: 1678-08-16 at age: 57) To His Coy Mistress

I will not agree to have this bill [to repeal DADT (Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell)] go forward, Because our economy is in the tank.
~ John McCain (born: 1936-08-29 age: 75) 2010-12-03

He reasons that gays should be granted equal civil rights only once the economy is bullish. That is a bit like saying they will get their rights when pigs fly, the way thing are going. What is he thinking? Civil rights don’t cost anything. Money would be saved. Think of the money wasted with trials for the 40,000 gays already evicted, wasting all their expensive training, replaced by expensive contractors. It is not as though gays are responsible for the poor economy, and need to be punished until they stop hurting it. McCain is just bloviating yet another idiotic excuse for bigotry, on par with “because it is Tuesday” or “because it is snowing”.

Man weeps to think that he will die so soon; woman, that she was born so long ago.
~ Henry Louis Mencken (born: 1880-09-12 died: 1956-01-29 at age: 75)

Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who would want to live in an institution?
~ Henry Louis Mencken (born: 1880-09-12 died: 1956-01-29 at age: 75)

Strike an average between what a woman thinks of her husband a month before she marries him and what she thinks of him a year afterward, and you will have the truth about him.
~ Henry Louis Mencken (born: 1880-09-12 died: 1956-01-29 at age: 75)

A man is not an orange. You can’t eat the fruit and throw the peel away.
~ Arthur Miller (born: 1915-10-17 died: 2005-02-10 at age: 89) Death of a Salesman

Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.
~ Arthur Miller (born: 1915-10-17 died: 2005-02-10 at age: 89)

Can anyone remember love? It’s like trying to summon up the smell of roses in a cellar. You might see a rose, but never the perfume.
~ Arthur Miller (born: 1915-10-17 died: 2005-02-10 at age: 89)

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
~ Friedrich Nietzsche (born: 1844-10-15 died: 1900-08-25 at age: 55)

When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.
~ Friedrich Nietzsche (born: 1844-10-15 died: 1900-08-25 at age: 55)

According to DC’s HIV/AIDS office, three percent of the local population has HIV (Human Imumuno-deficiency Virus) or AIDS… The DC City Council, perhaps on the theory that serving up another glass of wine is the way to help a drunk, is scheduled to vote on December 1 to legalize same sex marriage in America’s capital city.
~ Star Parker (born: 1956 age: 55) founder of CURE (Coalition on Urban Renewal and Education)

Ms. Parker subscribes to a rather odd notion that married gays are more promiscuous than unmarried ones.

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
~ Plato (born: 428 BC died: 348 BC at age: 80)

Self-hatred is not therapy.
~ sign at Marcus Bachmann protest rally (born: 2011-07-10 age: 0)

Gay people got a right to be as miserable as everybody else.
~ Chris Rock (born: 1965-02-07 age: 47) on gay marriage

A bacterium that lives on a tooth leads a fairly cushy life. All such a parasite has to do is hold on, and the host (you) will bring it food several times a day. One of the reasons bad breath from infection from mouth bacteria is such a sexual turn off is that it is a sign of a weak immune system. A sweet-smelling mouth means genetic fitness. Even if you knock the bacteria out completely, they will be back within 12 hours. That is why you need to brush both morning and night to stay fully on top of them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A Christian is someone who is more horrified that Jeff Dahmer has sex with males than that he killed and ate them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A gay Christian is as absurd as a Jewish Nazi.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A generation ago, bigots argued against civil rights for black people using the same religious/superstitious arguments they are trotting out again today to deny gay people equal rights.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A perfect example of karma is the way every cute young gay man who spits on older gay men, calling them trolls, eventually turns into a troll himself, barring accidental death.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A relationship is like a house. If you get behind in the maintenance, you have a big problem.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A right wing group talked Michele Bachmann andRick Santorum into signing a marriage vow that swears belief that sex between married heterosexuals is officially the most pleasurable sex. This is not a matter of opinion or sworn belief. The assertion is obviously false. Unmarried couples have sex more frequently after they are married. Gay people clearly prefer sex with same sex partners, so for them homosex is vastly more pleasant. It is a cliché that men and women are baffled by how to please each other sexually. The approach that comes naturally is quite different for the two sexes. St. Paul, the patron saint of prudes and Republicans, asserted that homosexual sex was vastly more pleasurable than heterosexual sex. He was deeply worried that, like a prairie fire, homosexuality would sweep the entire male population if they found out about it. I presume he spoke from personal experience only, which calls into question his statistics.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A straight man is far more likely to grab and hug his buddy in a spontaneous expression of joy than his wife.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A thousand years ago, adultery was a serious crime for three reasons:

1. A woman needed a man to support her. Without him she would die.
2. There was no birth control. Adultery meant babies without anyone to support them. There was no way for woman to bring up a child without a husband.
3. There were no condoms. Adultery meant incurable venereal disease would soon follow.

Christians overreact to adultery today as if these conditions still applied. Adultery should be worked out privately by the couple. It no longer requires the intervention of the entire community.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A wedding is a symbolic play to celebrate the creation of a new union. Why should it use traditional paternalistic symbolism you don’t agree with? Why can’t the best man be female? Why can’t the bride have a best man too? Why can’t the groom’s parents and bride’s parents all escort their children to the altar?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

A workaholic, an alcoholic, a meth addict, a manic depressive, a child molester, someone who hates kids, a narcissist, someone without any training in care of infants… all can accidentally have children.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Acting over eager will put potential partners off, even if there is nothing else wrong with you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

After losing an election, the testosterone levels of supporters of the losers plummet. It seems human males see politics in the same way hippos see mating dominance fights.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Alan Turing (born: 1912-06-23 died: 1954-06-19 at age: 41) was one of the most brilliant computer scientists of all time. He was the creator of the world’s first computer. He was able compute things with that tiny computer that astound today’s programmers including cracking Nazi ciphers.

He was tried on 1952-03-31 for having consensual sex with another male in his home. He was convicted and offered the alternatives of a year’s imprisonment or chemical castration. He opted for castration. For the period of a year, he took injections of feminising estrogen intended to neutralise his libido. This is Britain’s eternal shame, not Turing’s. In 1954 he committed suicide by eating an apple laced with cyanide.

I spit on those busybody meddling prudes who thought they had the right to interfere with other people’s private sex lives that did not in the least concern them.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

All but two Republicans voted to keep Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. That settles it — Republicans are bigots and homophobes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

All that incredibly painful heartache you feel, you create yourself as a futile Gandhian blackmail on the person who rejected you. Just because you are the one causing the pain does not mean it is trivial to stop doing it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Allowing gays to legally marry only members of the opposite sex is as silly as telling them they can marry anyone they please, so long it is their grandmother.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Almost everything you learned from fairy tales, romance novels and the movies about how to create and sustain a relationship was a bum steer.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Americans don’t believe in freedom of religion. They are happy to impose their religious beliefs about marriage on gay people.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Americans talk at is if would take at least two or three years to wind down either the Afghan or Iraq war. Huh? The much larger WW I and WW II hostilities ended overnight.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Anal sex is one of the most wonderful features of existence. Two males can simultaneously give each other a natural pleasure more intense than any other, short of drugs. So long as you take proper precautions against STDs, it has no drawbacks. It is strange that Christian are so intensely opposed to something so pleasant.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Anti-gay bigots (usually Republicans or Christians) hint darkly about the homosexual agenda as if it were some plan to put a secret drug in the water supply to turn everyone gay. The homosexual agenda is simply equal rights, in particular:

1. Freedom from violence usually called gay bashing . Many so called Christians believe Leviticus gives them the moral and even legal duty to kill gay people, just for being gay. They fail to noticeLeviticus tells them to kill just about everyone else too including those who eat lobsters.
2. We don’t want to be thrown out of our apartments and homes just for being gay.
3. We don’t want to lose our jobs for being gay.
4. We want full equality before the law. There should be no laws that treat gays differently. We should have the same laws that straights have concerning age of consent, sexual harassment, sex outdoors, marriage, adoption, custody… everything. We are tired as being treated as second class citizens.
5. We want the legal rights of civil marriage. We want it called the same thing straight people call it, be it marriage or civil union. Every black knows that separate but equal means some people are more equal than others. If churches want to be bigoted, that is their business, but the state should not discriminate. Religious bigots want to punish us by denying our partnerships the same rights straight couples have namely: legal recognition, the right to visit the partner in hospital despite what the family says, right to attend a partner’s funeral no matter what the family says, default inheritance, default child custody in the event of death of a spouse, right to spousal benefits such as pensions and medical care that gays currently have to pay for, but are not allowed to collect, and the requirement for divorce to dissolve the union.
6. We want to be able to serve in the military (though I personally think no one should until the illegal wars are terminated).
7. We gays want to be treated equally with everyone else. We want straights to give up any special privilege they are unwilling to give to gays too. We gays don’t want any special rights, only what everyone else gets. We are sick and tired of being treated as second class citizens.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Anti-gay bigots such as Fred Phelps (no relation to Michael Fred Phelps the swimmer), Rick Perry, Michele Bachmann and Rick Santorum are some of the most illogical beings on the planet. Let’s have a look at just how nuts they are:

• They claim their religion motivates their bigotry and their desire to enshrine their bigotry in federal law. Yet they simultaneous claim to swear allegiance to the U.S. constitution that forbids using the government to impose one’s religion on others.
• They claim they are persecuting gays because Jesus wants them to. Yet inJohn 8:7 in the casting the first stone story, Jesus explicitly tells his followers they have no business punishing others for perceived moral transgressions
• They claim the bible demands that good Christians murder gays. Yet if they actually read Leviticus andDeuteronomy beginning to end, they would discover the pair were crazy old coots who wanted everyone executed, not just gays. Read it for yourself. Those old goats wanted you too executed.
• They rail against promiscuity in gays, then deny them the #1 antidote, legally recognised marriage. By forcing gays into the closet and denying recognition for monogamous relationships, you’d think the bigots were trying to encourage promiscuity.
• Back in the ’60s, I too was an anti-gay bigot, but that is because I was gay, hated myself and was deeply in the closet. It was part of my camouflage. As Shakespear in Hamlet observed “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.” That sort of behaviour is a dead giveaway the bigot is fighting internal demons.
• They claim Michele Bachmann’s husband can cure gays just by praying over them for a fee paid for by the government, yet they cannot point to even a single person who changed his sexual orientation as a result of any such intervention by anyone.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Anyone who contemplates polygamy has temporarily forgotten it comes with two sets of in-laws.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Arranged marriages have two advantages:

1. The parents are more rational in making the match than the children. The children are primarily concerned with sex appeal.
2. The children don’t start out the marriage in a rush of hormonal infatuation and feel disappointed when the excitement subsides. They have more realistic expectations for the marriage.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Artificial intelligence will be puzzled why humans are so preoccupied with who had sex with whom, and comparatively so little preoccupied with who had unprotected sex with whom and who and sex with whom without birth control.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As a gay male, I watch straight males, obviously aching and sexually frustrated. This looks a bit like what I feel myself, though, to me, it seems bizarre the bimbos they lust after. Unlike a straight male, as a gay male, I have to keep those thoughts of frustration to myself.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As a gay man, I am amazed that straight men put up with the push-pull games women put them through.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As a gay man, one of the least attractive features of females is the way they spend so much time artificially altering their appearance with paints, powders, false hair, uncomfortable clothing… Yet I have met straight men who absolutely insist on it. They have no interest in women who don’t look airbrushed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As a gay man, the insanity of men, their testosterone-fueled crudity, their cruelty, their rapes and their mindless wars is clearer to me than to standard issue men.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As a student of biology I understand it, but as a gay man, I find it infuriating the way females make males jump through hoops, to gift, to please and to impress them. Further, I find it disgusting the way males acquiesce to this degrading game.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As an out gay man, the only time it is appropriate for me to let it be known I am interested in someone else is in all-gay company. Straight people never turn it off. From a gay perspective, it is quite gross, not only because it is displayed at such inappropriate times, but because it is so blatant. It is like watching monkeys.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As an out gay person, I have put up with so much shit from straight people. The most ignorant, fat, unwashed, heterosexual slob imagines his worth is infinitely greater than mine. He gets his jollies jeering at me and threatening to kill me. Consider what it must be like for the outer philias (unusual sexual attractions) that are far more rare than being gay. They get even more shit dumped on them just for being what they are. Their deepest desires are often criminalised. They are expected to forgo sex entirely for their entire lives. They are much more alone. It must be a truly miserable lot being saddled with one of the outer philias. They did not choose it any more than I chose to be gay. I for one, am going to use my head rather than my prejudices to try to avoid dumping on them and I will do my best to protect them from bullying straights. Some people feel a need to hurt others for their sexual gratification. Obviously I don’t want anyone hurt (unless they want to be), but, I also don’t want to make life unnecessarily miserable for even them by interfering with their fantasy lives. I am revolted by the self-righteous Christians to gratuitously make life miserable for anyone not like them. They did not choose or strive to be heterosexual (or Christian for that matter). They have no right to be so damn proud of it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As I get older, I see parents’ meddling in their children’s love life less as power trip meddling and more a desire to protect the children from emotionally painful mistakes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

As you get older, one by one the pleasures of youth are closed to you. Pretty well your only hope is learning to direct your dreams where you can enjoy even pleasures too outlandish for youthful reality.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Asking a male to be monogamous is like asking him to pick one colour of the rainbow and forgo the rest.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Be glad of the unconsummated affairs you accumulate over your life. When you are old, you will think of them again and again imagining how they might have been.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Beautiful people who don’t mind you staring at them are called celebrities.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Because of our Christian heritage, our taboos about sex and talking about sex are overly strong, particularly about variations that are unpopular, dangerous or illegal. The net result is, for example, a young sadist enters puberty, but fears telling anyone. He fans his fantasies with violent video games. He secretly tortures and kills animals. Then he joins the military, is shipped to some foreign land where he can butcher and torture innocent people to his heart’s content, is given a medal for it, comes home and becomes a mental basket case. It would have been better if he felt free to get help containing and redirecting his desires.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Because we age gradually, our own aging creeps up on us almost imperceptibly. A corollary is that when you go to a reunion, everyone in the room thinks they aged the least.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Before you pick a partner solely on looks, check out their parents. Those bodies are roughly what you are signing up for long term.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Beware of getting involved with someone who seems to be treating you as their parent. They are not necessarily much younger than you. Eventually, they will start projecting on you all the negative behaviours of their actual parent, which will be quite baffling. At the same time they will resent the ways in which you are different from their actual parent. Eventually, an unconscious incest taboo will kick in. They will leave, refusing any further contact, and it will feel to you like a son dying.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Beware the reshaper — the partner who sets out to improve you in ways you don’t particularly want to be improved. The bullying will escalate. Eventually they will become so frustrated with their lack of progress reshaping you that they will abandon you. This is more than ordinary nagging. This is an ardent attempt at complete reform.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Bigots charge that gays are wicked because they are promiscuous. Oddly they do everything they can to stop gays from forming lasting relationships, from beating them up if they see them together in public, to refusing accommodation to gay couples to banning marriage.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Bigots complain that gays are trying to force their sexuality down their throats. It is not gay sex that is explicitly depicted in every prime time drama. It is not gay couples making out in bus shelters. It is not gay sex at the heart of advertising. Gays are as horny as anyone, but you won’t see gay sex unless you go looking for it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Can you think of a violently anti-gay Republican politician who did not turn out to be gay himself? This is part of the standard camouflage for the closeted gay.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Canadian homophobes don’t mind being labeled homophobic, but it shakes them up when you call them bigots.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Carrie Prejean, the former Miss California, called for withdrawing existing civil rights from gays, making them second class citizens. She then characterised any criticism of her religiously-motivated bigoted views as a “denial of her constitutional right of free speech”. She seems to think freedom of speech means the right to suppress others’ criticism. Does she not realise that had she made similar controversial remarks advocating the withdrawal of civil rights from blacks or women, she would similarly have been deluged with virtual vegetables? The woman is too vacuous to realise she is a bigot.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation) Radio featured a psychologist who breezily explained how he cured people of sexual deviance. He defined defiance as anything but adult heterosexual attraction. He would diagnose his subjects by getting them drunk then measuring erections while showing the subject a wide range of pornography. Anyone who responded to anything but adult heterosexual pornography was deemed a pervert in need of treatment with chemical castration. If the subject protested that what he did in his sex life or fantasies harmed no one, the psychologist considered this evidence of pathology. He was brimming with Christian zeal though the did not mention religion explicitly. To him, what was right and what was wrong were absolutes that were not open to any sort of debate.

He was not a mean person. He sincerely felt he was a providing a humanitarian service. It never dawned on him that he was imitating the art in A Clockwork Orange.

Because he was such a sweet little man, I think many listeners would have been seduced by his message. However, recall that a man, just like him, drove the greatest computer scientist of all time, Alan Turing, to suicide, by forcing him to take estrogen, and grow breasts, supposedly to cure his “illness”, homosexuality.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christian bigots who oppose gay marriage contradict themselves. Marriage is the most potent tool to encourage monogamy. My opposing gay marriage, the bigots are pro-promiscuity and pro-AIDS.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians are horrified that gay males and females refuse to breed. They say it against nature, yet in many other species, large numbers of the population do not breed. Consider ring tail lemurs, wolves, buffalo, grouse, seals, elephant seals, horses, bees, ants, cervids, cuttlefish, mountain goats…
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians are so dense. The pretend they can’ understand why we gays don’t like them when they phone us thousands of times with death threats, lobby against us receiving HIV medications necessary for life, lobby to take away our civil rights, and constantly keep urging people to kill us to please their screws-loose god.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians bring up a slippery slope argument to deny marriage equality to gays. If we let gays marry, soon people will marry their dogs.. First it is highly unlikely the majority would ever want that. Second marriage is a legal contract. Dogs cannot enter into legal contracts. It makes so sense. Third, all gays are asking for is simple equality, nothing new or strange.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians chastise gay women for having a high HIV rate when it simply not true. They have a rate lower than heterosexuals.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians complain that gays impose their sexuality on them. Yet gays are very discreet. When police want to observe homosexual activity, they must look behind looked doors, use hidden cameras, entrapment or go seeking in the dead of night infrared cameras. In contrast you can’t get away from heterosexual activity. It is in every bus, movie theatre, shopping mall, movie, TV show… at every hour of the day.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians demanding that gays pass as straight is an impertinent as gays demanding that Christians pass as Mormons.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians deny gays equal civil rights, claiming there is absolutely no hate involved. Then they go on to explain that gays marrying would be like a woman marrying a dog, and that gays and gay sex are disgusting, and that children must be protected from even knowing that gays exist. These arguments are similar to the hypocrisy Christians used first to justify slavery and later to deny blacks equal rights with “separate by equal”. If that is not hate, what is?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians have been extremely successful in implementing their Puritanical agenda. They have ordinary people believing that men who so much as lust after 17-year olds (e.g. by looking at naked pictures of them on the Internet) deserve the death penalty. They have ordinary people equating succumbing to seduction by a 16-year old to raping an 8-year old. They have convinced ordinary people that accusation, even by rumour is equivalent to conviction. On the other hand, they have the public looking the other way any sex crime committed by clergy. There is no sense of proportion. This agenda has many of the characteristics of a witch hunt. Few people are willing to speak out about this muddle fearing being labeled a sexual predator.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians have some cheek to spit on gay people. It is the Christian breeders who are destroying the planet with overpopulation. The gays are doing their best to compensate for Christian locust-selfishness.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians justify their bigotry by saying the bible commands them to put gays to death. They conveniently forget that screws-loose document also demands they put to death people who work on Sunday, children who sass their parents, people who use the name of the deity in a less than reverential tone and people who eat taboo foods such as lobster.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Christians to everything they can to block gay men from living in monogamous couples, then chastise them for having a higher HIV rate. What mean-spirited people!
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Consider how conceited is the woman who seeks a husband among already married men. She knows he has a roving eye. She knows he will leave his mate when he finds one slightly more attractive. She imagines that she will be the most attractive female he will ever meet.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Consider how much effort people put into courting their mates vs. keeping them. Consider how painful it is to have a mate lose interest after the relationship is ongoing compared with dumping you before it gets off the ground. Logically, you should put much more effort into keeping than courting your mate.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Could you imagine how outrageous it would be if gays started using violence and threats of violence to bully straight people to passing 24/7 as gay claiming the reason for this new rule was “god made us do it”.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Cutetwinks sometimes like to spit on trolls not realising that they too will soon become a troll and those trolls just a few years ago were cute twinks too.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Dance is one of the fields most open to gay people. Ironically, it has been extremely reluctant to admit the existence of gay couples. Dance couples are invariably of mixed genders. It is time to shake things up.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Denying full equality of gays based on gay pride parade high jinks is like denying marriage to heterosexuals because of Mardi Gras.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Denying gay people the right to marry follows in the same vein as assigning subjugate status to Chinese immigrants, blacks and women. It is motivated by a desire to feel superior without effort.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Despite how it feels now, sex will be on the back burner for most of the duration of your relationships. It there is not a long list of other things you like doing together, you won’t be spending much time together.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Did you ever notice that the people you like and the people you want to have sex with are not necessarily the same people? When you are horny, even if you are gay, at some level you are working out the genetics of the imagined offspring and the odds your partner will be useful in raising them. That is why opposites attract — to compensate. Not many people want to have sex with you when you are old because, on an unconscious level, they are worried you will die before raising the offspring.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Did you ever wonder why people are embarrassed to buy condoms, tampons, KY jelly, Depends“ but not toilet paper?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

DNA (Deoxyribonucleic Acid) testing is forcing humanity to acknowledge it is not nearly as monogamous as it pretends to be.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Don’t ask, don’t tell is unique among laws. It requires people who have no classified information to lie.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even as recently as the 1970s, mothers were quite cruel to the their children. They smacked them, shouted at them, jerked their arms, watched for tiny infractions to punish… Today, that just does not happen, at least in my neighbourhood. Parents are so patient with their children. In turn, the children seem to be giddy with happiness from just a ride on a swing.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even heterosexual married men prefer all-male company for a weekend get-away.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even Justin Bieber will in 2050 be bald and wrinkled.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even the most grossly obese straight men imagine they are irresistible to both men and gays, simply because they are male.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even the world’s most attractive person might hold little interest for your ex. There is no shame it turned out you were not his type.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even though I am intellectually completely committed to gender equality, I notice that have trouble telling female character apart in movies or TV dramas. They all just seem to blur into a single uninteresting stereotype female character. A few stand out, but they need to have something highly unusual about their look, voice or character. These distinctive females, I find quite fascinating. I don’t how much this is me, and how much the writers giving nearly all the interesting parts to men.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even to this day, Senator Robert Byrd cannot live down his racist remarks he made in 1944. On 2010-02-03, Republican senators lined up to make disparaging remarks about gays in the debate over repealing don’t-ask-don’t-tell. I feel gratified to know that even 67 years years from now, if any of them are still alive, they will be paying for their past publicly expressed bigotry.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Even today in movies, if a male thinks some other male has come onto them, and they are not interested, they usually react with horror, violence or verbal abuse. People copy the behaviours they see in movies, so they also need to see modeled a polite decline such as “Sorry, you are not my type. I prefer women.”
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Eventually you reach a certain age when you realise that none of your sexual fantasies will ever happen. At a time like that, you might be tempted to wish to reincarnate and have a second try to realise them, or go to a heaven where they manifest without effort. Wishful thinking propels such ideas, not evidence.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Ever since the beginning, I have objected to the term gay pride. It is hard enough dispelling discrimination without trying to sell the seven deadly sins: gay lust, gay gluttony, gay greed, gay sloth, gay wrath, gay envy and gay pride.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Every mountain goat is smart enough to know that if he abandons his mate, another male will soon take his place. Human males naïvely expect fidelity even with an absence of a year or more because they have such an exaggerated opinion of themselves.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Every teenager has to rebel as part of the process of getting ready to live on his own. Thank your lucky stars if he chooses to do it with his taste in music.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Everybody masturbates and most people are unfaithful to their partners. Yet when a mate discovers an indiscretion, they create a scene as if they had uncovered an axe murder. What idiocy!
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Everyone complains about street prostitution, then in order to increase it, Christians insist the police crack down on modeling agencies and classified ads.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Females have males cowed into feeling guilty for even dating more than one female at a time. So long as there is no broken promise of fidelity, I see no moral problem.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Find out how your guy treats his past lovers and friends. That is how he will treat you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

For about 0.4 seconds, even you once held a world record.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

For malaria there is the mosquito; for sleeping sickness there is the tsetse fly, but for HIV there is no essentially tropical vector. It is primarily a tropical disease because of the way mankind has responded politically to the disease.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

From a gay perspective, you can dismiss 90% of cinema as a tedious retelling of the old story of one straight male human persuading a straight female human to copulate. The banality might come clearer if you imagined a cinema based on the copulation of hippos.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Fundamentally, women need a man whom they can rely on to help raise children. So what should they look for?

• Wealth.
• Enjoys children.
• Keeps his word.
• Imprints on one person, and can’t let go even if they die.
• Not particularly adventurous. Likes routine.
• No interest in waging war, the most common way for men to escape family obligation.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Gay Christians are suffer from Stockholm syndrome.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Gay marriage rights follow naturally from gender equality. Anything a man is allowed to do, so should a woman. Anything a woman is allowed to do, so should a man. In particular, since men are allowed to marry women, women should be allowed to marry women. Since women are allowed to marry men, men should be allowed to marry men.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Gay people form a constant percentage of the population. Unlike a religion, it can’t sweep a population. It is self-limiting. Yet ironically bigots fear that homosexuality will become universal far more than some religious or political ideology doing so.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Gays tolerating Christianity is like Jews tolerating Nazis.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Given that having an orgasm inside a female is like throwing a pair of dice, and if you throw a natural, you are forced to sign a contract agreeing to feed, house, educate and in all ways support another human being for 18 years, I find it astonishing that anyone ever does it, or that anyone even can do it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Given that men and women have such different taste in housing, furnishings, recreation, entertainment, music, clothing… it is amazing that mixed sex marriages ever work.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Giving birth is surely more painful than the average rape, yet we expect a woman to recover from it without therapy or lasting trauma.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Gushing over a fellow male is considered gay and poor taste unless that male is a pro athlete.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Have you have been strongly attracted to a guy you simultaneously detest, like a moth to a flame? I suppose it may be the same mechanism that traps women with an abusive partner.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Having seen how so many kids turn into monsters I am amazed that straight people are brave enough to risk sex.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Here is way to understand hetero, homo and bisexuality. Imagine standing before you were all the people on earth past the age of consent. Your job was to sort them order from most to least sexually desirable. If you were a 100% heterosexual male or 100% lesbian, you would place almost all the females (even the toothless, 500 pound, one-eyed grannies with leprosy) ahead of all the males (even the most famous movie stars and athletes). If you were 100% heterosexual female or 100% gay male, you would place almost all the males (even people as repulsive as Rush Limbaugh) ahead of all the females (even the most famous movie and pop stars). If you were bisexual, there would be both males and females near the head and tail of the list. Even Christians have a list, and they have a list they think others should use. Trying to force others to use an incompatible list, for example, forcing a heterosexual male to select his partners using a homosexual male list, or vice versa, is a revolting and an incredible imposition. Christians have been doing it for centuries without shame.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Here’s a comforting thought. Even married men, if they can get away with it, seek out pornography. So those of us who feel too old, ill, ugly, poor… to be frozen out of the sexual game, are not greatly missing out after all.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Heterosexual attraction is so crass compared with homosexual. Women are looking for a rich husband to support their children. Men are looking for a fecund body to bear their children. They rarely have anything in common except reproduction. This attraction does not rise above the animal.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Heterosexual males seem oblivious to how females cruelly toy with them and exploit them. Males are frantically, and irrationally attracted to particular females, whilst the female attraction to males is less intense and more calculating. A teenage boy puts up with the abuse because he is so hopelessly enamoured. A male spider or mantis allows the female to dine on his body in return for sex. Sir Paul McCartney gave Heather Mills $50 million in return for a few years of sexual access. Much of dating is really prostitution. The male pays for the dinner and entertainment and the female. If she is sufficiently impressed, she puts out. The male is as mindlessly driven as a moth in his pursuit of sex.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Heterosexual men and women are so rude to and inconsiderate of each other, I find it ridiculous when they try to tell us gays we should be more like them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Heterosexuals are so weird. They pair up with partners who have nothing in common with them, and wonder why their marriages fail. There is nothing the two enjoy doing together. They have totally different ideas of what is important. Men consider a woman who likes outdoor activities and spectator sports a rare treasure.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Heterosexuals can be so insufferable with their KKK-like notions of being the superior sexual orientation.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Hormones proved necessary because people had too much common sense to get involved with someone of the opposite gender.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

How can straight people ever manage to have sex when they know the tiniest slip means signing on for a 20-year babysitting gig and a $165,000.00 CAD expense, not counting university tuition.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

How stupid can those old Christian coots be who try to force young gay men into marriages with women. Not only are the lives of the young men ruined, so are those of the wives. Straying is inevitable, and that straying will necessarily be promiscuous and anonymous to keep it hidden. That mean sexually transmitted diseases, including AIDS which he will bring back to his wife. Those meddling old farts cause so much trouble!
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

How tasteless, crude, stupid, insincere or manipulative you judge a person to be depends inversely on how well they meet your preferred sexual stereotype.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Humans (and other animals) are cursed with a biological urge to fill the universe with copies of their own DNA, even if doing so makes the carriers of those copies utterly miserable from the effects of overpopulation.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Humans are somewhat eccentric with their nominal lifetime heterosexual pair bonds. Almost no other species does things that way, except for beavers and some birds. When humans use any of the variants (promiscuity, polygamy, polyandry…) we consider them highly wicked.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Humans resist all attempts at population control because they have a deep-seated biological urge to fill the universe with copies of their own DNA, damn the consequences to their offspring or anyone else.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Hydrogen peroxide is what the body creates naturally to repel invaders. It will kill bacteria in your mouth, bleach your teeth, disinfect your butt, clean cuts…. It is cheap, but amazing stuff. Don’t buy a big bottle since it deteriorates with time. It is basically super-oxygenated water, so is much less toxic than other disinfectants.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I am highly opposed to posting the names and addresses of “sexual offenders“ to encourage the public to shun them and take vigilante action to harass or kill them. The term sexual offender covers a wide range of offenses including:

• Masturbating in a pornographic movie theatre
• A 17 year old boy having sex with his 16 year old girl friend.
• having consenting sex in private with an adult of the same sex in one of the backward states.
• giving someone money prior to having sex.
• Fondling a child
• Child prostitution
• Raping a child
• Kidnapping a child

There is no public safety issue for most of these crimes. For example, someone living next door who consorts with prostitutes is no threat. The notion of tarring everyone with the same sex-offender brush is motivated by Christian spite, trying punish relatively minor sexual crimes as if they involved children. It is Christian prudery and malice gone insane.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I can see making the purchase of various types of pornography illegal since that encourages exploitation of the models. However, that is not the way the law works. It is possession of pornography that is illegal, even when it is viewed for free on the Internet, thus mildly costing/harming the pornographer. This legal thinking derives from a religious fervour to make others conform to religious norms, not to protect victims. By the principle of separation of church and state, that intrusion of privacy should not be permitted.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I certainly did not choose to be gay. I struggled mightily against it for six years until I discovered I had been outrageously lied to about gay people. Today, 49 years later, if I were given the choice I would likely choose to stay gay. I am just too disgusted by the way heterosexuals behave. It would like choosing to become a bison. It would be like having myself reprogrammed to enjoy eating raw liver.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I doubt many people determine their sexual attraction based on the physical sensations of having sex, but if they did, screwing a male feels much tighter than screwing a female.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I feel impotent rage that Christian homophobic bigots tormented Tchaikovsky.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I feel sorry for straight people because they so easily get trapped in some vicious games. For example, if male approaches a female and offers some small talk to break the ice, usually she will rudely put him down as if he had just committed a criminal act. Males can’t win when it comes to sex. He is supposed to know via ESP (Extra Sensory Perception) when his partner wants to have sex. She will alternately bawl him out both for suggesting sex and for failing to suggest sex, until he just wants to hide. Even in the animal kingdom, males have to dance and compete to impress the females with their wealth and vitality. This beauty pageant is degrading for an intelligent species. With some biological justification, females get into the headset that the sole purpose of their partner is to please them. To make the game more challenging they say “If you loved me, you would know what I want.”. The poor heterosexual males, no matter how badly they are abused by these games, can’t just say “screw it”. They are trapped like moths to a flame.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I find it puzzling that women in particular affect babyish voices that suggest complete incompetence and terminally low IQ to increase their sex appeal. Who wants a drooling idiot who can’t even plug in a toaster for themselves as a life companion?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I get angry when bigoted politicians claim they are not bigots because their bigotry is motivated by religion. If you deny others their civil rights, you are a bigot. It does not matter what your reason for doing so. So of course religiously-motivated bigotry is bigotry. It is ancient bigotry cultivated over the centuries as if it were a virtue, just because people in the deep past indulged in it. Religious bigotry is more poisonous that bigotry motivated by hate since the perpetrators imagine, like Hitler, they are doing some great and wonderful deed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I have a quite different way of looking at the outer philias. I ask, what is it that I want these people to do? Most people want to make their lives as miserable as possible no matter what they do. They hate them just for existing. I ask, what sacrifice can I reasonably expect of these people to satisfy the demands of society? I think, if I were in their position, what would be fair both to them and to society? So for example, I have no problem with pedophiles looking at pornographic art work they created themselves out of their imagination. No children are harmed. It is not society’s business.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I have an entertainingdream life. I wonder if people who don’t dream enough try to compensate by taking drugs. I understand once they do, the drugs suppresses dreaming, which would increase the craving.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I have noticed from direct observation of tens of thousands of erect penises, that penis size is strongly correlated with what part of the globe one comes from. I have wondered why this was so. Here is my hypothesis. Women tend to have more children by males with large penises, but they need a way to know their partner has a large penis before they commit to sex and/or marriage. To judge, they need to observe the erect penis. They can’t tell much from a flaccid penis. This can be discovered several ways:

• By direct observation in cultures that don’t wear clothes or that have weak modesty taboos.
• By touch, in cultures where young women are allowed to make out.
• By gossip from other males. Young males must have opportunity to see each other possibly through sexual activity.

I suggest that in extremely modest cultures, women cannot easily select, and thus there is no evolutionary pressure toward large penises. Males tend to be deferential toward other males with large penises. In societies where men get a chance to size each other up, this provides evolutionary advantage to the well-endowed.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I have reached the age where the people I can attract are not sufficiently appealing to consider as sexual partners. Sex now seems comic, obsessive and insanely repetitive.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I heard a piece of pop music from the 1970s. The emotions of the time came flooding back. I am so glad it is over. In youth it is nice having a body where everything works, but the emotions were so intense, it is a wonder I lived through it. What we usually call love should really be called addiction to a person.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I heard Newt Gingrich, famous Christian homophobic bigot, disgraced Republican, and proffered presidential candidate rail against gay marriage using these three arguments:

• Judicial fiat (determining constitutionality) changed several thousand years of Christian tradition and history.
• It’s a profound mistake for judges to engage in social engineering.
• Giving gays the right to marry would be a broad public experiment.

Those arguments applied equally well to the abolishment of slavery, giving renters the vote, giving women the vote and the end of segregation. Those are the standard excuses of the privileged for refusing to grant equal status to a subjugated group or to oppose any change they resist for purely emotional reasons.

Gay couples have been raising children for decades. Scientists have studied those families, and discovered the kids do just as well as children of mixed-sex couples and better than single parent families.

Denmark has allowed gay marriages since 1989. If something terrible happens when a county permits gay marriages, surely we would have heard of it by now since so many countries have already granted the right to marry to gays. The USA, in granting equal rights, would hardly be treading on unknown territory or performing some rash experiment. The USA is backward among developed nations in its delay in granting full equality to gays. It is mired in Christian superstition and myth more than any other developed country.

Newt Gingrich, like many Fundamentalist Christian Americans, believes it is the government’s job to impose Christian beliefs, values and superstitions on the general public, including its hysterical hatred of homosexuals (and blacks up until recently) and the belief in the inferiority of women. The American constitution makes quite clear this is not the government’s function. To the contrary, the government’s job is protecting people from Christians (or other fanatics) trying to force their religion down the throats of others. The founding fathers saw the bloodshed in Europe between religious factions. They were determined to make it safe to hold any religious beliefs imaginable in their new country.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I heard Wendy Wright, president of Concerned Women of America argue against gay marriage using the oddest, most irrational reasons. For example, she argued it would be wrong to allow gay marriage because it would be preferable for children to have straight parents. This makes no sense:

• Scientific evidence shows that children raised by same sex couples do just as well as those raised by mixed-sex couples. Two-parent families work better than single parent families.
• Even if you accept the argument it would be preferable for there to be more straight couples to adopt children, banning gay marriage will not create any more of straight couples.
• It is certainly better for a child to have a same sex couple for parents than no parents at all. The scientific literature is unequivocal on this. Obviously, gay marriage will create more such couples.

Basically Ms. Wright hates gays for religious reasons, thinks they are ritually unclean, thinks she is superior, and wants gays to stay in their place, much the way her bigoted ancestors wanted blacks kept in their place.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I know I am getting old. I can’t understand why young people would shave themselves bald, sport amateurish tattoos, wear a baseball cap sideways, or wear pants so baggy they drag on the ground. It is almost as though they are doing everything they can think of to make themselves sexually unappealing to older generations.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I once gave a lecture in Matsqui prison. One of the inmates told me that he wished he could be gay while in prison, then flip back when he was released. He greatly envied the gay prisoners. Try as he might, he could not change his sexual orientation.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I read thousands of fairy tales as a child. They taught me two poisonous lies:

• There is only one person for you. If you persist, no matter what the obstacles, they will come back to you.
• Good deeds are always rewarded, and bad ones always punished.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I saw a documentary about a gay bar in a small town in the southern USA. Almost everyone was grossly ( 45.36 kg (100 lbs) plus) overweight. 9.07 kg (20 lbs) . This is an epidemic more disfiguring than HIV .
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I spent 26 years suffering with nausea and diarrhea assuming it was a necessary side effect of HIV and HIV meds. Then I discovered cutting out wheat and sugar made it go away. Life is now a completely different, quite delightful, experience.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I started my career in gay lib at a when I had zero support. Even all the gay people were opposed to me. I knew my opposition to 4000 years of religious bigotry was utterly futile, but I was just fed up and felt I compelled to protest simply to express my outrage at their endless lies and cruelty. Today the world has changed well beyond my wildest dreams. Rosa Parks defied a nation because her feet hurt, not because she imagined she could change anyone’s mind. Gandhi hammered the idea over an over that your action may be utterly impotent and futile, but it is nonetheless exceedingly important. You have to act because it feels good to act not because you can see it taking you a significant step toward your goal. Otherwise you will be paralysed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think anyone planning on having a child should practice first by raising a large dog then reforming an alcoholic or drug addict.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think freedom of speech should be absolute for the right to plead a case that the law be changed, even when the petitioners are hated and despised, such as gays, pedophiles, necrophiles, coprophagists, sadists, drug addicts, Muslims, drunk drivers, soldiers… I myself was charged in 1970 with indecent assault for pleading the case for gay civil rights in a book I wrote that I mailed free to anyone who asked. The charge was dismissed when my lawyer pointed out that the charge amounted to “rape through the mails”.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think most gay males would have no problem writing a ten-page essay on what the ideal gay male looks like. Attraction is strongly based on hundreds of visual details. Females pay much more attention to behaviour.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think part of the embarrassment and shame a mother sometimes feels when her son comes out as gay is caused by worrying that others will condemn her as an abusive mother who poisoned her son against all women. Ditto for fathers and lesbian daughters.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think polygamy per se is fine, and I also think it is an ecological crime to have more than one child per adult. Using babymaking as the only entertainment, as is common in polygamous relationships, is a crime against the earth.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think the horniest I have ever been in my life was as a virgin at 15. For my dad’ it was age 13. We are cruel to teens by trying to pretend they are children without any sexual desire, treating as rapists anyone they manage to seduce.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I think true pedophiles are rare, people who are turned on to someone just because they are child. Males don’t work that way. Males require very specific physical attributes to turn them on. Pedophiles don’t ask to have these sexual triggers any more than I asked to be turned on by trim males or you to be turned on by Russian women with enormous mammary glands. So I think it is unfair to make the lives of pedophiles as miserable as possible. We used to torment the mentally ill. We are beginning to stop thinking it mandatory to torment gays. We are just beginning to treat transgendered people as fellow humans. Yet we still feel justified in tearing a pedophile to pieces, even when he has not even touched a child. Eventually, we will get around to humane treatment of pedophiles too, which does not mean letting them molest children, but it does mean avoiding gratuitous cruelty.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I wince when a straight outdoorsman flips for a shopoholic straight female. If they partner up, they will make each other’s life hell. They would each do so much better with a same sex companion who enjoys the same activities.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I wonder if every male, before contemplating unprotected sex thought to himself:

• Am I willing to pay child support for 20 years?
• Am I willing to put up with the side effects of HIV chemotherapy drugs the rest of my life — nausea and diarrhea so bad it pins me to my home?

How many babies would be born?

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I wonder what others species long to influence posterity, other than by having their genes spread widely in the species pool.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I would hope gay people will join me in my rebellion against uniformly black socks. Let’s see some colours and stripes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I would think the quickest cure for ungrateful kids would be to expose them to some truly awful parents.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If a bride insists on an expensive wedding, and tries to control every last detail of the wedding, it might be a good time for the groom to bolt.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If a gay man watches a film where a straight man falls for a pretty, demanding female with an overdeveloped sense of entitlement, it is obvious to him what a nightmare the character is preparing for himself. Yet that same gay man can be equally blind when beguiled by a handsome young demanding male with an overdeveloped sense of entitlement.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If a man discovers his bride wants a big expensive wedding and big expensive rings just to show off to her friends, he should not be surprised when she later spends more than he makes on designer clothing, makeup, furniture… to support her social climbing addiction.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If a stranger calls you up and says he is planning to kill you, this is much less to worry about than you might imagine. The FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation) points out that threateners rarely kill and killers rarely warn. In my days in Gay Lib, I received an average of 300 abusive phone calls and 3 death threats a day. I had to buy a heavy duty answering machine when my first one caught fire from the constant load. The only seriously scary event in the span of several years was a gang that came and banged on my house with baseball bats. Lowell Green, a right wing talk show host in Ottawa, gave out my home phone, home address and website and asked his listeners to harass me. They phoned at all hours of the day and night for a few days threatening to kill me, but nothing further happened. If I had not been hardened before by the such threats, the calls would have been scary. In contrast, I have been shot at 5 times on visits to the USA in incidents that had nothing to do with be being gay, just the American penchant for shooting people for fun and committing robberies.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If a teenage boy has a ferocious crush on a man ten years his senior, his parents will panic, unless that older male plays hockey professionally.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If AIDS is God’s punishment for being gay, why don’t monogamous gays and gay virgins ever get HIV?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If AIDS is God’s punishment for homosexuality, why does God smite straights more frequently than lesbians?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If Americans want to vote on whether they can deny gays people equal rights such as marriage, then legally they must first amend the constitution to repeal equal protection provisions of the fourteenth amendment.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If he dumps you, forget him. Even if he came back, you are not sufficiently compatible, he would just dump you again.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If it is indeed true that pharmaceutical execs have withheld drugs that cure HIV , or avoided researching such drugs in order to sell expensive drugs patients must take indefinitely, I wish terrorists would kidnap them and shove a bottle full of their product down their throats so they would have a hint of the hell of a lifetime of noxious side effects they have subjected their patients to.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If it were not for cacophonous music, silly clothing styles, faddish hair styles, tattoos and idiotic ways of speaking, the young would be fatally attractive to the elderly. The young are unconsciously merciful.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If it were true that people can choose their sexuality, surely women coming out of abusive relationships would at least try out being a lesbian, and similarly males coming out of a bitter divorce would give homosexuality a stab.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If it were true that visualising what you want caused it to manifest, every teenage boy would have a pornstar sex partner.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If one a pair of birds dies or takes off, that is pretty well a death sentence for any fledglings. In some societies, such as Haiti, most children are raised by a single woman. This leads to widespread poverty. The Christians are right on the desirability of two parents. It is important to provide every child with two parents to support and care for them, though studies have found it does not matter what gender the parents are. You would think polygamous marriages, which provide even more caregivers, would be considered preferable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If someone is besotted with you based on your appearance, don’t be surprised when they lose interest as your looks fade, or they find someone who fits their ideal even more perfectly.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If teens allow religion to frighten them into postponing sex, it is more likely to come bubbling out in the form of some perversion, sexual dysfunction, obsession or fetish. People who start having sex when they first feel horny, usually have no problems with orgasm, guilt or other psychological complications.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If Tiger Woods had his adulteries with males, it is highly unlikely any scandal would ever have broken. If you are gay, you simply don’t publicly talk about whom you had sex with. Doing so would be unforgivable. You would find yourself universally ostracised and despised. Sex is nobody else’s business but the participants. To gay people, the way straights gossip about and interfere in the sex lives of others is revolting.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If when you are courting, you find you have to maintain a frantic dance to keep your partner interested, consider that ever after you will never be able to relax and be yourself. What makes it worse is, in addition, the game of appeasement will later not seem as worth the candle.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are a child, when dealing with bullies, first try all the politically correct means. However, the only thing I ever found that worked was plotting to put one of the bullies in the hospital, entrapping him into attacking me when he was alone, and injuring him so badly he became afraid of me. When dealing with bullies, there is no need to fight fair.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are a teen, no matter what you think of your appearance now, in 25 years you will look at your old photos and wonder why you did not revel in looking so darn good.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are an older gay man, and your tastes in men are roughly the same as when you were 20, the prospects are bleak. Here are the options I can think of:

• learn to direct your dreams
• Be very rich and attract those who are strongly attracted to money
• Be very famous and attract those who are strongly attracted to fame
• Live in an Asian country where the elderly have high status
• pornography
• await the invention of 3D pornography
• await the invention of virtual reality pornography
• await the invention of android companions
• convince yourself you would actually be happier in the company of those your own age.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are crying the blues because your partner abruptly dumped you, you need to talk to someone whose ex hung around to torment them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are dumped, you would give your right arm to know why. So, when your partner complains during the relationship, treasure the information.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are gay, Christians are your worst enemies. They are so ubiquitous, it is easy to forget, and start thinking of them as mosquitos in the back woods, something you just have to tolerate. I think every gay has a duty to free at least one Christian from his delusions.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are looking for a long term partner, seek someone encouraging and supportive. The last thing you need is a partner who keeps belittling you. Of course, if you want to be perceived as a good catch, get control of any urges to ever put your partner down. People on TV and movies do it all the time, so you might think it is no big deal. Just don’t.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you are looking for a long-term lover, there are two basic errors you can make:

1. Being so picky you reject everyone.
2. Not being picky enough so you keep getting sidetracked with inappropriate partners.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you can’t motivate yourself to get your life in order, don’t have kids. They will make it much harder.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you didn’t help raise younger siblings, you are in for one heck of a shock what looking after an infant entails. I suspect the leading cause of death of infants is naïve frazzled parents who had no idea how much time it takes to feed them and how much pee and poop they produce and how loudly they cry continually.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you fear persecution by the Christians and live in the closet, you pay a huge penalty. If you never let people know your last name, where you live or what you do for a living, you can’t form proper friendships. If you get sick, no one will even know much less come visit you. As you get older, your shallow acquaintances will drop away.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you feel hurt at how someone rejected your advances, have a look at how animals rudely give one another the brush off. Yet, you never see them moping.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you get involved with someone strikingly beautiful, be on guard it does not deteriorate into an abusive relationship.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you have a TV, you have seen depicted the myriad ways a child can go bad. It is wonder anyone dares have a child anymore.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you have any fears based on what people have told you about the bible and after death torment of gays, try reading the bible cover to cover. You will discover it is 90% blithering nonsense, including the parts about gays. Further probe any evidence God had anything to with authoring it. There is none; it was written mainly by people, who today would be on anti-psychotic drugs. The endless repeated assertions do not make it any more true. Fear of lurid biblical threats is as silly as fear of Bram Stoker’s Dracula. It is just a book, proven fiction over and over and over.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you have any sexual fantasies involving a young man, you better get on with them while you are young too. Males are rarely interested in anyone much older than they are. When they appear to, it is usually actually attraction to money, status or fame.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you have bought into the myth one true love/soulmate, and you beloved dumps you and cuts you off from all contact, consider that you true love would never dream of treating you that way. You were doubly mistaken.

1. They were not your one and only.
2. There are plenty of suitable partners out there, not just one. If there were only one you would have no chance of finding them in the 7 billion occupants of earth.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you have HIV, one of the greatest pleasures in life is to stretch out on the couch and not feel nauseous.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you hook up with an extraordinarily handsome man, the catch is lots of other people will think so to, and will stop at nothing to get him into bed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you hook up with an extraordinarily handsome man, get used to the idea you won’t be able to hog him all to yourself. Why would you want to deny your wonderful guy some extra fun?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you must have a partner who is 100% dedicated to you, pick one that no one else finds attractive.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you notice your lover suddenly dumping friends without any apparent reason or explanation, it is only a matter of time till he does the same to you. If you let it get to you, it will be the most painful experience of your life.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you pick a lover based on how beautiful they are, at least admit to yourself, you don’t intend to stick with them for the long term. Even movie stars with the money and drive to do whatever it takes to preserve their looks still fade.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you pick a sufficiently mousy male partner, is it within the realm of possibility he will never have sex with anyone else. If you dump him just because he does a few times, you are an idiot.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you pick a sufficiently unappealing male partner, is it within the realm of possibility he will never have sex with anyone else but there is absolutely no chance he won’t want to. Demanding he never be attracted to anyone else is like demanding he never pee or feel like peeing except in your presence.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you put someone on a pedestal, they can’t help but look down on you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you try too hard to impress a potential mate, they will expect you ever after to keep up that level of impressing dance. When you stop, they will leave. It might be better not to try so hard so you attract someone who likes you the way you are.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you want a lasting relationship, pick a partner who enjoys doing the same things you do.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you want a lasting relationship, pick someone who is always saying interesting things and who stimulates you to say interesting things too.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you want a partner who is significantly better looking than you, younger than you, better hung, richer, more famous etc., if you succeed in attracting one, your partner will necessarily have serious drawbacks that scared off everyone else better looking, younger, better hung, richer or more famous than you are. It might be emotional immaturity, drug/alcohol use, self-absorption, neediness, promiscuity, spends your money like water, insane jealousy, wants sex excessively often/rarely, treats you with contempt, has some sexual fetish, compulsive neatness… If you are lucky, it will be something you can handle. TANSTAFL (There Ain’t No Such Thing As A Free Lunch). You will save yourself all manner of grief if you set your sites on finding someone of roughly equal status to yourself.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you want to keep your partner, you have to do little favours such as bringing coffee or tea, breakfast in bed, doing extra cleanup work, foot or back massage… Doing favours without being asked shows you hold them in high regard.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If you were gay in the 1970s, you had the choice of being either an outlaw or a rebel. Today you have the additional option of obedient consumer.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your lover dumps you, attempting to cause as much emotional hurt as possible, it can feel as if what you are experiencing must be unique in human history. It helps to learn this is a common part of the human condition. Billions of people have gone through this before you, being hit even worse. The hurt never goes away completely, but at least it becomes tolerable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your lover dumps you, give up, immediately. If things have deteriorated to the point they treat you that badly, there is no hope for a lasting happy relationship. They were not the one. The fact they dumped you proves it. Be glad you escaped as lightly as you did. Hollywood and fairy tales cruelly trick you into pointlessly hanging on and on.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your lover suddenly drops friends without explanation, it is only a matter of time until he does that to you too.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your lover was attracted to you because you were famous, you had better stay famous. If he was attracted because you were buff, you had better stay buff. If he was attracted because you liked having sex three times a day, you had better keep having sex three times a day. If he was attracted because you were rich, you had better stay rich. Relationships have to work on this mundane level too. Don’t coast.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your mom is a bitch, that’s her problem. It doesn’t have to ruin your life. Become your own parent or find a surrogate.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your partner dumps you suddenly, instead of mulling over endlessly what you might have done wrong, consider the possibility you outlived your usefulness or that someone else made a better offer.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your partner dumps you with unnecessary cruelty, it is not nearly as bad a thing as it feels. Had they stayed, they would have made your life increasingly miserable. They are not a suitable partner for you or anyone else until they grow up. They had some of the characteristics of a good partner, and you filled in the blanks with wonderfulness that was not really there.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your partner went down a waterslide with someone else, or played tennis, or went to an exciting 3D movie, very unlikely you would become petulant and end the relationship. But sex? The strong monogamy taboo was to prevent disease and unwanted children. With condoms and other contraception, sex is really just another exciting activity. There is no need to freak out over it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your stream of pee is not as horse-like as you would like, oddly, if you eat some pumpkin seeds or pumpkin seed butter it will drastically increase overnight.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

If your true love dumps you, don’t kid yourself. At best they might have stayed with you another year. They were not a suitable lifetime partner for you, (though they might be for someone else). You simply mistook them for one. That is not a mistake worth pining over. It takes more than beauty or uninhibited sexuality.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Imagine a cartoon with two panels, labeled Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, with the first panel labeled With and the second Without. In the first panel is a handsome gay man sitting by a pool with another handsome guy putting sun tan oil on his back. The second panel has a guy in a ragged uniform with an arm and leg blown off.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Imagine a withdrawn child learning all he knows about interpersonal relations from TV. Part of what he sees is exaggerated just to make it not so boring, but the rest is modified to suit somebody’s quirky agenda. How are gays portrayed compared with the way they actually are, teens, the elderly, immigrants…?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Imagine being 25, but the only people who have any interest in you sexually are 60+. That is what it is like to get old.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Imagine if Hitler had prevailed. People would be mindlessly persecuting Jews, imagining it was the virtuous thing to do. That is exactly what happened when the Catholic church prevailed and sold the planet on its irrational hatred of gay people.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Imagine you were a teen, and noticed that your masturbatory fantasies were invariably about sadism, raping children, torturing or killing. You would not dare tell anyone. You knew that if you acted on these you could end up in jail for the rest of your life, brutalised by other prisoners. What could you do? Join the Canadian military! You would be shipped to Afghanistan where you could torture, rape and murder to your heart’s content with almost no chance of legal repercussions. The hashish and heroin there are dirt cheap, and again with almost no chance of legal repercussions. Heck, you might even get a medal if you killed enough people. You would come home to honour and bagpipes. Ironically, your family would be proud of you for being a serial killer, but one in the employ of the Canadian government.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In a primitive society, pretty well the only defence against sexually transmitted diseases was to marry off women (and sometimes males) before they were old enough to be interested in sex, and then enforce strict monogamy. This custom may have embedded itself in our genes, criminalising a substantial proportion of males who would have been considered normal in our cave-dwelling days. Even today in India, children as young as two are betrothed, as extra pressure to keep them celibate.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In crime shows, police officers chastise teens for chatting with people on line, but never bawl them out for opening the door to plain clothes police and allowing them into their homes without even demanding or verifying ID, which is thousands of times more dangerous.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In every ongoing TV drama or sitcom, if anyone finds a partner, the always lose them by the end of the episode. What unconscious effect does this have on viewers?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In heterosexual culture, grown women often masquerade as infants to appeal to male partners. They feign infantile incompetence and stupidity. They use baby talk. They affect an infantile accent. They call their partner Daddy. They use makeup and lotions to hide their true age. Nobody seems to consider this appeal to their partner’s incest-pedophilia fantasy at all disreputable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In high school, I was deeply closeted gay virgin. One day, the class bully phoned me up, with laughing henchmen in the background, and pretended to be a friend of mine asking to meet for sex. I felt panic at being exposed and angered they had accused my straight friend. Unfortunately, my mother listened in on an extension phone. Getting her off my back was just about impossible. I still have not forgiven the bully to this day. I know bullies do these things because they like tormenting others, but they have no idea just how much torment they cause when they pick on closeted gays who are already convinced they have no right to existence.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In most parts of the world, gay people are afraid to publicly show even 50% of the affection considered acceptable for straight people. They fear being jeered at, beaten up or even killed. The problem is, this way bigots rarely see same sex affection. When they do, they freak out. If they saw it every day, within a month, they would come to see it as not that big a deal. So we gays have it in our power to overwhelm the bigots if we but had more courage. ~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In most species the male must jump through hoops and give her presents to impress her. Even with the progress of equality of the sexes, that attitude of female entitlement remains in humans. As a gay man, I find it revolting, when males let females drag them around by the nose. The women seem so conniving and heartless and the men so pathetic and clueless. Yet they treat this mutual exploitation as something sublime.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In most species, males have at most two functions:

• Providing sperm.
• Protecting the territory and the females from other males of the same species.

Perhaps we humans are expecting a bit too much of our males.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In old age, sex does not consist in reminiscing about past conquests, but in endlessly reimagining pleasures that almost might have been.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In one limited sense, the Christians are right. Homosexuality can be cured, as can heterosexuality. Eventually, you reach an age where you stop pursuing sex.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the age of chivalry, men controlled women by deferring to them in matters of no consequence.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the corporate world, you start out as a pune and gradually work up the ranks to your peak shortly before retirement. In the gay world, you have the highest status the day you come out into gay society, and with few exceptions, it is all downhill from then on.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the days of slavery, Christian Americans denied slaves the right to marry, and they felt smugly superior for it. In 1967, 19 states had laws forbidding blacks to marry whites, justifying their Jim Crow laws with racist claptrap. In 2008, Christian American denied gay people the right to marry, claiming change was unthinkable and harmful to them. In 2010, the supreme court of California told those Christian Americans they could no longer continue to deny gays their civil right to marry. Even though the judge chastised the Christians for arguing without facts, and by lying outrageously, presenting urban myths as fact, they vowed to take the case to the supreme court where corruption, bias and bigotry just might prevail.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the interest of ensuring enforcement of the legal notion that young teens cannot give consent to sex, no matter what they do, sometimes people make the absurd claim that young teens are never the aggressor in sexual encounters with adults.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the interests of entertainment and wish fulfillment, Hollywood will trick you into thinking the more tempestuous a relationship is, the happier it will be later. This is not true. In lasting relationships, the partners consistently treat each other with consideration, fairness and respect. If your partner dumps you, forget it. You made a mistake. That relationship was not “the one”.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the last trimester of your life, you wish over and over that you had not made such as ass of yourself, or compromised your integrity in the first two trimesters. People sacrifice so much time and effort trying to amass wealth. It hardly matters at all.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

In the movies, teenage girls are often portrayed as cruel, manipulative, selfish, conceited and malicious. As a gay male, I am always astounded that anyone will go anywhere near them. They are as endearing as the ant queen in Alien.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Intersexed people are approximately as common as red heads — 1 in 250. We just fail to notice them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Is circumcision a risk factor for child molesting? It is for erectile dysfunction caused by lack of sufficient sensation.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Isn’t it peculiar that every gay person’s two parents, four grand parents and eight great grand parents are all nominally straight.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It cannot be stressed too strongly how rapidly old age descends on you. It is as if you wake up one morning and suddenly you are old. There must be some mistake. You expect to wake up the next day back to your normal self, but you just don’t. You are trapped in this goony-looking old man’s body. What’s perhaps worse, is everyone else treats you like an old man too. People offer to help carry your groceries. If there is anything you want to do in life that requires, energy, flexibility, sex, fetching appearance… do it now! Psychologically speaking you have only a few days left.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It does not matter what the bible says about homosexuality, any more than what the Qur’an says or the Bhagavad Gita says. The constitution guarantees freedom of religion. Christians are not permitted to impose their religious superstitions on others. They have no more right to impose sanctions against gays than they have to force people to drink Jesus blood. The Christians have no conscience about ignoring the constitution and imposing their religion simply because they are the majority and can get away with it. The courts are corrupt to have let this slide so long.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is a dangerous thing to get involved with someone who has no history of gracefully breaking up with exes. It they dump all their bottled resentments suddenly and at once and announce they have always hated you and only pretended to love you, it is hard not to be knocked for a loop that could last a lifetime.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is amusing hearing old farts, who have never seen the movie fulminate against Brokeback Mountain as if it were some sort of porn movie. It is about Christians, how cruel, bigoted, ignorant, arrogant they are and how they take such pleasure in making everyone around them miserable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is amusing that society makes one exception in its disdain for homosexual attraction. Kissing, hugging, nakedness, collecting pictures, gushing and obsession with the minute details of the life of the beloved are all considered manly if the object is a sports star.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is completely normal when a couple breaks up to exaggerate or even fabricate faults in their partner. It is a way of cementing the decision to split. Don’t take it personally.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is funny that you can be fatally attracted to someone that you would absolutely hate if you saw them as a character in a movie.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is hard to accept that when you ex has left suddenly, your ex does not care how you feel, how you doing or even if you are alive or dead. He rarely even thinks about you. He wants to forget you even though you may wish desperately for some thin thread of a relationship to honour what once was. When someone decides to dump another, they resolve to carry through by convincing themselves their ex was a monster. If you are mathematically inclined, you might study catastrophe theory to understand how it works. The sooner you give up and get on with your life the better. Look at animals. They never pine at rejection. They know better. They know their odds of happiness are much better with someone else.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is hard to put my finger on it, but straight men are so dense, so unwilling to think for themselves, that it would be like having sex with a capybara.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is ironic that a country with as many religious bigots as the USA would exclude gays from military service. They consider them, like university students, too valuable to waste as fodder in pointless wars.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is only a matter of time until medicine can cure obesity. Then, the only fat people will be eccentrics. We will need a new bulk-screening device to eliminate potential partners.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is such a bummer not to be young and sexy any more. The young imagine the elderly choose to get old, but the reality they wish so ardently to be young. The young do not value their youth since they imagine it will last indefinitely. But we get old so suddenly and after what feels like just a few weekends of decent youth.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It is time that somebody created a little keychain computer. You enter the risk factors, and it computes the odds of pregnancy or HIV infection. If the device spun a simulated Russian roulette chamber based on the odds, stupid people would take it that in some magic way they were safe this time if the device came up safe that one time.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It must be quite depressing for a straight male when they notice a woman coldly sizing him up for his ability to support her in opulence. For gay males it is simpler, the guy sizing them up is thinking about how fun sex would be and how compatible you would be to live with.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It seems funny now, but in the 1960s in the USA, it was illegal to dance, if you were gay.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It was not that long ago you could kill a gay person and get off simply by saying you thought your victim was a queer. We could return to those days if the Tea Party have their way. Being gay today is bit like being a Jew in Germany in 1930. It is not a good idea to let the bigotry slide. The experience with the Nazis shows you must nip bigotry in the bud.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

It was only relatively recently in the history of human civilisation that condoms, antibiotics, abortions and birth control pills and were invented. Up until then the only way to control STD s and unwanted pregnancies were abstinence and monogamy. It was a matter of life and death to keep your mate faithful to you alone. The risk-takers could try to enforce a harem to be faithful. This is why religious folk, who hold onto social norms thousands of years old, are so incredibly uptight about sex outside marriage.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Its amusing that the derring-do of screen heroes appeals more to the boys than the girls.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Its odd the way so many straight males think they are superior to everyone else when they are so dull. These reptilians spend so much time dominating they have no time left to think about anything interesting. Whatever brainpower is left is consumed with finding a warm wet place for their penis.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I’d like if English had some verbs for the following:

• Speaking in an affected voice (e.g. valley girl accent or Bronx accent) to make it seem that you are considerably less intelligent than you are, masquerading as an airhead.
• Using body language that says “I am beautiful, and you are not, and that is the only thing I ever think about”. This is a combination of vanity, conceit and obsession with triviality.
• Acting as if you believed you knew better than others how they should run their private lives, and that you had some divine authority to override their decisions. This is an extreme form of busybody.
• Refusal to acknowledge that you have completely different rules for you/your team than you have for others. This is an extreme form of hypocrisy.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

I’m waiting for the teen generation to sprout old man haircuts complete with white bleach and chemicals to make the hair thin and wispy. Nothing frightens parents more than old age.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Janet Jackson sang “But what have you done for me lately?” She came by this unappealing trait honestly. The females of most species demand the males perform for them, with colours, vigour, presents or dances. She is ensuring he has the best genetics for her offspring and in some cases that he has the wherewithal to be a good provider. Straight males take this in stride. Gay males find the attitude offensive.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Jealousy is its own punishment.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Just as people today are deeply ashamed that their ancestors were slave owners, or supported apartheid, tomorrow’s people will be revolted that their ancestors were such superstitious bigots that they denied gay people the same civil rights as everyone else.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Just as racial prejudice weakened as the older generations of bigots died, so the prejudice against gays is dying too.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Just how much longer will tattoos remain in fashion? Just how much longer will any given tattoo design remain in fashion? Since tattoos are permanent, if you get one in the name of looking cool and with it, you are dooming yourself to look very old fashioned for most of your life.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Legislators become so flustered defining child pornography they resort to vague euphemisms. Law must be precise. Drafting law is no place for the squeamish.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Letting yourself become so entranced by beauty that you are only sexually attracted to people much better looking than you are ranks up there with poking a stick into your eye as one of the most painful things you do to yourself.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Likely nobody told you that the most potent human bonding rituals require behaviour so silly it would be painfully embarrassing if generally revealed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Living with HIV is like having a permanent case of diarrhea and nausea while a swan decides to sit on you and hatch you. It is much less fun than you might think.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Look at a TV series that lasted three years or more. Look at an early episode, the sparkly actors. Then look again an episode from a few years later. The actors have sagged, wrinkled and gained weight. These actors are extraordinarily good looking people, whose occupation is looking good, who have the money and motivation to do everything they can to keep looking as good as possible. It is unlikely your mate will age as gracefully. So don’t pick your mate based on how close to perfection they look. That crispness will not last even three years.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Lovers have various ways of leaving. Some, perhaps because they can’t handle confrontation, will surprise you with no warning, no explanation and no further contact. They just disappear. You find out they are still alive only through third party sightings. If you don’t know that this is fairly common, being dumped this way can shake you to your core. You might foolishly tell yourself you can’t get on with your life until you figure out what happened. Get it out of your head that they owe you an explanation. Be glad to be rid of such a person so easily, and get on with your life. The understanding will come clear in time when your feelings are not so raw.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Lovers pursue, and imagine the game is over once the pursuee says yes, but you have to keep doing things every day to please and re-attract your partner if you want the relationship to last.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Make your partner feel 100% safe to complain.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Male animals tend to be territorial, especially male humans. It is not only my house, my car, but my country, my political party, my church, my favourite movies, my skin colour, my sports team… If you have anything less than extravagant praise for these extensions of himself, he feels personally attacked.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Male lions usually kill cubs sired by other males so they can bring the female lions into estrus and sire cubs that bear their own genes. A woman considering living with or marrying a stepfather for her children has a similar problem. If she picks a stepfather too aloof from her children, he may physically abuse them. If she picks one too solicitous, he may sexually abuse them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Male spiders, salmon and giant Australian cuttlefish end their lives with a bang. They lose their virginities in an orgy of spawning, gifting the next generation with their best genes and even the nutrients of their bodies. Some humans are similar. At the end, they try to spread the best ideas they have had or picked up over their lifetimes. They prepare gifts of ideas, money and chattels for the next generation.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Many creatures wrestle to test the genetic fitness of the prospective mate. Humans joust verbally.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Marriage is about love, public vows of commitment, legal obligations and mutual support. Christian bigots think it is all about sexual plumbing and baby making.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Medicine has a good shot at keeping you alive indefinitely with HIV , but the catch is you may have to live for the rest of your life with the side effects of severe nausea, crippling diarrhea and very low energy. I assure you, the inconvenience of safe sex is much preferable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Men and women express dominance by getting their partner to put the toilet seat in their favourite of the three possible positions. Logically, I think the seat should be up. That would discourage males from overestimating their ability to aim and it makes it clear to everyone when the toilet needs to be cleaned.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Men don’t pay any attention to clothes. Women do. If women dress expensively, it is to impress other women. If men want to impress women, they should seek help investing in expensive clothes. If women want to impress men, they should get their spongy butts off to a gym.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Michele Bachmann whines that gay marriage is being imposed on her. Really? How is who she marries or whether she marries changed in the least? She is the one who wants to impose her religious views on others. She wants to have a veto on other people’s choice of partner based on her religious superstitions. She does not believe in freedom of religion. She wants to dictate religious her religious beliefs on everyone.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Modern democracies have constitutionally guaranteed freedom of religion. This has two purposes, to ensure the government does not interfere with your religious beliefs, and to stop other people from using the government to impose their religious beliefs on you by force. Christians are in the majority so manage to run roughshod over the religious constitutional rights of others and nobody says boo about this violation of law. They shamelessly use the government to impose their barbaric superstitions about gay people. They manage to institutionalise discrimination, particularly in banning gay marriage and banning sexual acts between people of the same sex.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Monogamy is extremely rare in mammals. The pretense that humans are 100% monogamous causes untold misery: guilt, needless divorce, blackmail and political ruin.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Most people are quite contemptuous of porn stars. I think they are a noble profession. They allow people who would normally never get a chance to have sex with someone so desirable, to have a partial experience, all without risk of disease or emotional entanglement. Porn stars have a gift, and they share it responsibly with tens of thousands of people. I think of their skill as similar to the ability to make music. It would be wrong not to share.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Most relationships do not last, and most end badly. So there is no need to berate yourself when yours does too. Its normal.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Never sleep with anyone crazier than you are. Of course in every coupling, one of the pair breaks this rule.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Never underestimate the power of a foot massage, backrub, hug or breakfast in bed to keep a relationship warm. First and foremost, we are mammals.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

No animal mopes if it is rejected or dumped. If you are dumped or rejected, instead, take an inventory, asking yourself what is it about me that my ex did not like or that other potential partners might not like. Then get busy fixing it. It is just wishful thinking to imagine that someone will come along who finds you perfect just the way you are.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

No matter how heart-stoppingly beautiful he is, add 40 years and he may be lovable, but he won’t be eye candy.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

No wonder old men have erectile dysfunction! Do you think you could get it up if the only people who would consider having sex with you were over 70?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Nobody has compassion for the beautiful child who grows up and tries the old infallible charm gambits to no effect. These poor people just look ridiculous.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Normally I find tattoos repulsive. They imply low I.Q. and criminality. However, I saw one on a well-muscled shoulder that was appealing. The artist had worked brilliantly with the natural contours.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Normally life gives you no indication you are doing something for the last time — having sex, having an orgasm, kissing someone, going out to a meal with a friend…
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

NOSEY-TYJ (No Offensive Sexuality Ennywhere, Thank You Jesus!) is a Christian family values group interesting in censoring anything that would promote homosexuality or let the young find out gays exist e.g.

• Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, makers of Chubby-Hubby and Hubby-Hubby flavours of ice cream.
• The Flintstones who sing about having a gay old time
• Cary Grant for his gay scene in Bringing Up Baby
• the carol Deck the Halls for its reference to donning gay apparel.
• Stephen Foster’s Old Black Joe with the hearts young and gay.
• The nursery rhyme Ride a Cock Horse to Banbury Cross.
• All the episodes of I Love Lucy featuring Lucille Ball.
• Jerry Lee Lewis’s Great Balls of Fire.
• The adventures of The Lone Ranger and Tonto, Wild Bill Hickock and Jingles, The Rifleman (a single father), The Cisco Kid and Pancho, Batman and Robin, Bert and Ernie.
• Any movie with a gay character or a gay actor e.g. Cabaret, Harry Potter series, Star Trek series, Frasier, The Simpsons, Don’ Eat the Daisies.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Nothing can prepare you for the shock of waking up old.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Nothing is more ridiculous than a young woman who thinks she is Queen of the Universe just because she looks fabulous. It will be gone in the blink of an eye.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Nowadays, so many North Americans allow themselves to become grossly obese. They don’t realise how much they are giving up by doing that. Not only do they lose opportunities for sex, they sacrifice energy to do interesting things. They are sacrificing their health and comfort in the second half of life. They are doing damage no amount of later effort can undo.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Oddly, Canadians don’t consider mad infatuation of a male of any age for another male as gay, if the adored one plays pro hockey.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Of all the terrible things that can befall a child, thankfully, being sexually attacked by a stranger is relatively rare. It appears much more common than it is because of the world wide news coverage. However, we react as if it were the #1 childhood peril by teaching even very young children to be afraid of strangers. The problem is, when these children grow up, this deliberate phobia inhibits them socially, makes it hard for them to get a job, hard to sell goods or ideas to strangers, hard to speak in public and hard to find a mate.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Older males make themselves ridiculous if they cannot successfully hide their sexual attraction to those much younger.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Oldsters are keenly aware that fellow oldsters were but brief moments ago horny teenagers. To horny teenagers, the notion is absurd. To them, the old obviously must have always behaved exactly the way they do now.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Olfaction and sexual attraction are strongly linked. It is no co-incidence that the derogatory term for women that gays use is “fish“. Women smell different to the different sexes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

On 2010-03-12 a high school in Fulton Mississippi canceled the graduation prom to block Constance McMillan from attending with her girl friend on the grounds their presence might make some students feel awkward. Even the most bigoted of students would prefer to attend a prom with a gay couple than have no prom at all. The tiny minority who would have thought otherwise could have stayed home. Oddly the students blame Constance for the canceled prom, not the homophobic school board.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

On 2011-05-07 a man in Rochester New York was sentenced to 27 years in jail for making extra copies for himself of photos of children people brought into be developed. To be consistent, the law should also jail those parents for taking the photos of their children skinny dipping or splashing in the bath. He is being convicted for his alleged thoughts, not his deeds. Had he made extra copies of cute pet photos there would have been no jail time. The odd thing about this case is that the pictures in themselves were not pornographic, but that the defendant allegedly treated theme as if they were. By this reasoning the defendant could equally well have been convicted for ogling a Sears catalog. Given that no one was harmed, and no child was exploited or traumatised, I think the sentence was overly harsh. People become extremely uncomfortable thinking about such matters. So they naturally go for the gut, ignoring what their rational minds might have to say about the legal repercussions. Even the judge did this.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

On 2011-06-22 Senator Ball said a strange thing. His religion strongly condemns homosexuals, therefore that gives him the right to deny gay people the same rights as straights, e.g. being able to collect pensions they have paid into, and marriage. The constitution guarantees freedom of religion. This means no religion may use force to impose its religious beliefs on others. In particular, Christians are not permitted to impose their superstitions about gays on gays. So far, the courts have failed to enforce the constitution. Polls are irrelevant when it comes to civil rights.

There is great scrambling to ensure New York churches may continue to spew hate speech, and exclude gays even after gay marriage is permitted. That is probably their right. It was also their right to exclude blacks from church during the time of desegregation. However, in secular life discrimination has to go. Christianity is no excuse. Neither is it a valid excuse for treating blacks badly which they originally claimed they were obligated to do. In a decade or so the churches that continue to harass gays will look as backward as those that refused blacks into the congregation at the time of desegregation.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

On Oprah’s farewell show, she featured 200 men who had been abused as children. Each held a photo of themselves at the age the abuse began. To my astonishment, one young man held a photo of himself at about age 20. Another showed himself at his university graduation. This is not child abuse. This simple remorse and refusal to take responsibility for one’s actions. It is most likely Christian abuse, where Christians convince someone that some innocent sexual activity in the past was a monumental sin, and drive them psychotic over it. Lumping every sexual activity that Christians don’t approve of as child abuse weakens the meaning of child abuse. It undermines efforts to protect real children.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

On purely statistical grounds, you can be pretty sure whatever it is you think about but never tell anyone else, are the exact same things that other people think about.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Once we start creating computerised sex partners it will be only a matter of time until they are more attractive than real sex partners or even real companions. Real companions may become quaint The rich may indulge themselves with diverse harems.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One in 400 fraternal twin pairs have different fathers. 1 in 5 children, when tested with DNA prove to have a different father than the official one. Because females are more likely to use birth control with lovers than husbands, the amount of philandering is even higher than these statistics suggest. Humans are like other primates. The males work hard to keep their females from mating with anyone but them, and females want a variety of fathers for their offspring to ensure at least one survives. Yet our culture pretends that humans are monogamous, and couples are obligated to divorce on discovery of even a single instance of adultery. Even gays sometimes fall into this folly.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One key difference between gay and straight men, is that gay males will rarely screw or be screwed by a male of much lower status (age, fitness, appearance) than they have. In contrast, straight males are more than happy to screw females with much lower status than they have, e.g. grossly fat, much older or drug addicted. They even brag about this behaviour as a badge of honour.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the advantages of being gay is that nobody is ever going to trick you into getting them pregnant, (or falsely claiming you got them pregnant) then forcing you to marry them and support them and the child for the rest of your life.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the advantages of old age is you can look with bemused detachment when you are besotted with the beauty of someone your type.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the characteristics of the alpha male is a lifetime of multiple sex partners. If you are attracted to this type, straight or gay, prepare yourself to share.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the characteristics of the alpha male is a lifetime of multiple sex partners. No wonder politicians are forever in hot water with their exposed adulteries.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the cleverest things we gays did was choose the rainbow flag as our symbol. It suggests a delightful diversity. Everybody loves rainbows. It plays into one of the pleasant gay stereotypes, that even as adults we gays love to have fun and play.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the creepiest things that happens to me is to be sexually attracted to a guy because of his appearance and simultaneously repulsed by his actions, such as being a military serial murderer, an environmental vandal or a corporate pirate.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the cruelest lies of all time is the notion of soul mate: that there is only one person on earth who would make you a suitable partner. Think how silly that is! In a lifetime you might meet only 10,000 people. What are your odds of even seeing your soul mate in a world of 7 billion? You have only met perhaps 0.1% of the potential partners in your metropolitan area. How can you possibly claim there is no one suitable in that other 99.9% of the people when you have never even talked to them? When a partner dumps you, all that proves is they were not a suitable long-term partner. It means nothing about the availability of better partners.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the easiest ways to make your relationship last is to treat your partner with as least as much courtesy as you would a stranger.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the hardest things to adjust to as you age is becoming invisible to young people.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the irrational things about Christians is they hate homosexual virgins almost as much as they hate homosexual sluts.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the least attractive features of the heterosexual mating game is the way females sometimes pretend to be infantile/retarded so they will appear easy, docile and bullyable and hence more attractive. When a grown woman talks like a three year old, I can barely hold myself back from throwing up. It is criminal the way competent, intelligent women go to such lengths to disguise that fact.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the more distressing aspects of being an old fart is the way you become invisible to young people. It is such a charge of delight when a young person flashes a smile.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the most destructive delusions is that your lover has not truly changed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the most important things to make your relationship last is to acknowledge and appreciate the things your partner does for you. Even when you don’t like them, you can still appreciate the thought. Think how crushed you feel when someone criticises or ignores something you did to please them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the secrets of a long relationship is to inspect the toilet after every use, and wipe it down with a sterilising wet wipe where it needs it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the silliest reasons for leaving your partner is because they had sex with someone else. What counts is how he treats you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the strangest porn movies I ever saw was a documentary on the Oasis TV channel. It showed how young Laotian males vigorously fist male elephants to cause them to leak sperm which they catch in little buckets on sticks for freezing and artificial insemination. The elephant appears to enjoy this. He gets an erection. They don’t touch the penis at all.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the strangest things about Americans is that they would far rather their children viewed a rape on TV than a friendly sexual encounter. Given that children ape what they see…
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the strangest things about bigots is that they have historically insisted that gay people lie and masquerade as straight, even today with don’t ask don’t tell. Could you imagine demanding that of any other minority group, e.g. that black people wear white makeup, or that Chinese people die their hair blond to disguise their identity.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

One of the unpleasant facts of life is, if you want to have sex, and you don’t have a long term partner, you must continuously expand the pool of people you are willing to have sex with. The day the pool of people you are willing to have sex with no longer includes anyone willing to have sex with you, your sex life ends. That is what has happened to me. As a result I have been celibate for over a decade. I find the idea of expanding the pool too disgusting. I would rather go without.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Our society ostensibly values honesty. Yet the young openly try to trick others into thinking they are older and the 30+ openly try to trick others into thinking they are younger.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Over time, you will come to like a considerate but ugly partner better. Over that same time, you will come to like a selfish but beautiful partner less. This one of the obvious lessons you learn from fairy tales, but it is practical wisdom.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Parenthood is the price you have to pay to be a grandparent.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Partners never tire of hearing how much you enjoy their company and how appreciate you are of the things they do for you. However, you will scare them away quickly by telling them how you would fall apart if they died or ran off with someone else.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Pedophiles like George H. W. Bush and your local priest can hide in plain sight because the taboo is so strong nobody can believe than anyone they know would ever violate it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

People are somewhat irrational when they are just as nasty to celibate pedophiles as they are to child rapists. It is unfair to punish someone for what they feel/think, only for what they do.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

People have the right to cut you off from all contact forever without any explanation. It is an unkind thing to do, but you have to accept it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

People set themselves up for a lifetime of misery by imagining they will be able to reform their potential partner of their bad habits. They won’t. Further, during courting, partners are on their best behaviour. They are going to get much worse. The proper question to ask yourself is can I live with my partner the just way they are now, but with more wrinkles and fat.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

People who demand absolute fidelity are full of themselves. They will make your life a misery with their suspicion, bullying and demanding even if you are 100% faithful.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

People with rigid notions of sexuality, especially religiously mandated ones, create endless misery for themselves even when their partner is 100% compliant. They imagine their partner wants to break the rules or is secretly breaking the rules and they berate themselves for even fleeting thoughts about breaking the rules.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Perhaps the most painful and destructive of insanities is the delusion that there is only one person on earth whose companionship will suffice. Hollywood fosters the delusion, much as they foster the delusions of Christianity and life after death. They pander to wishful thinking of the infected.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Pfizer’s world wide patents on Viagra will expire over the period 2010 to 2013. This will launch an avalanche of cheap generics. Wrigley has even patented a chewing gum containing generic Viagra. I kid you not.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Pity the old man, still hopelessly enamoured of youth and beauty. The only way to attract a partner is to became rich or famous. But even then, his partner will find him unappealing. He would be tolerated only for his wealth or fame.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Pity the poor straight guy. No matter how big his penis is, it is not nearly as awe inspiring to a women as an entire baby sliding down her tube. Straight men may be envious of gay men simply because, for gay men, the fit is so much tighter.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Pope Ratzinger pontificated that if one has HIV, one must not use a condom when having sex with one’s wife. Presumably the intent is to infect her with HIV, conceive a child and infect the child too with HIV. This reminds me of the story of Abraham getting the nutty idea is his head that god wanted him to sacrifice his son Isaac. Ratzinger is mad. He belongs in a cell for the criminally insane.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Porn can only really work for virgins. The rest of us know that those good looking enough to star in porn films would unlikely even give us the time of day.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Porn has one advantage over the real thing. The actors don’t pressure you to keep going after you have just come.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Porn has one advantage over the real thing. The actors don’t care how quick or slow you are.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Porn has one advantage over the real thing. No matter how good looking the actors are, they never tell you to stop staring at them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Porn has one advantage over the real thing. No matter how attractive the actors are, they never tell you to get lost.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Prior to the 1970s gays could hide in plain site because the taboo was so strong, that no one could believe any one they knew would consider violating it. People refused to consider the possibility that even Liberace was gay.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Pro athletes have special dispensation to hug, kiss, hang out nude together and pat each other on the behind without being considered gay.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Prostitutes have obviously learned what sells. It baffles me though that Halloween zombie makeup, ill fitting clothes, bad teeth, rat’s nest hair, chewing gum, smoking and snarling demeanor are what appeal most to their customers. Maybe this appearance is their way of showing contempt for their customers, who are attracted like moths no matter how they look.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Purse snatchers don’t love women, they just want their purses. It might not be too much of an exaggeration to say that the heterosexual men don’t love women; they just want their vaginas. To get sex, they have to convincingly feign enduring love.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Relationship get easier as you get older because you stop squirming.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Religious bigots oppose marriage equality ostensibly on because gay couples cannot have children. This argument is fallacious on many grounds:

• Many mixed sex couples never have children and never intend to have children. This does not invalidate their marriages.
• Mixed sex couples where the woman is past menopause can marry. They will never have children.
• Women who have had their tubes tied or men with vasectomies can marry. They will never have children.
• Women or men using birth control can marry. They will likely never have children.
• Women or men carrying genetic diseases can marry. They will likely avoid having children.
• Gay people sometimes have children from prior mixed marriages.
• Gay people can adopt.
• Gay people can use surrogate parents male or female.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Right wing bigot,Rick Santorum, argued in a rather strange analogy involving napkins and paper towels, that marriage can’t ever be extended to include same sex couples, because the word marriage is currently defined to include only mixed sex couples. He seems to think that the definitions of words were carved in stone like the ten commandments. Lexicographers have to put out new dictionaries every year to keep up with evolving meaning of words. Definitions are not a barrier.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sandals is a chain of resorts in the Caribbean who refuse gay customers. I would hope straight people would avoid them for the same reason the would if Sandals announced they were refusing black customers.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sandals resorts in the Caribbean discriminate against gay people. I think everyone should boycott them, on the grounds that even if you are white, you should refuse to patronise a whites-only resort.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sarah Palin argues against gay marriage on the grounds the judiciary should not be able to undo the will of the people as expressed in a referendum. This would be quite a sweeping change for the USA, abolishing the constitution and the federal judiciary responsible for interpreting/enforcing it. The whole point of the constitution is to override the majority will of the people, especially when it rashly tries to trample the civil rights of unpopular citizens. Palin is such an airhead, I suspect she does not even understand the implications of what she just called for.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Select your sex partners with the certain knowledge they will eventually tell the five people who would most disapprove of the encounter.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sex makes relationships so much more complicated. Too bad your sex drive is strongest when you are young and least experienced in handling relationships.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sex robots are quietly getting better day by day. Eventually, they will be better than humans at giving sexual pleasure and sexual excitement. The robot has the advantage of complete dedication, and the ability to adapt to the client. At that point there will be massive unemployment in the sex trade and marriage.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sexual attraction is so hard-wired that straight people often assume gay people must be having sex with each other for some reason other than attraction — possibly to annoy their parents (like a ring in the nose), or as part of a pact with the devil for special favours. Gays in turn can’t help but believe, that on some level, straight men are just faking their attraction to women for social and corporate approval. Oddly straight males have little trouble believing in female attraction to them, but that can be explained by male ego.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Smooth sailing in a relationship may be as simple as deciding that harmony is more important than winning arguments.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Some of the things women do to appear sexually appealing I find utterly baffling and completely offputting. This includes pretending to be retarded, smearing red-tinted margarine on their lips, wearing shoes that make them hobble, covering their skin in concoctions that dry to a rubbery film, covering their skin in powders, talking in a high-pitched squeaky voice, removing their eyebrows and painting on artificial ones in unnatural places and shapes, dousing themselves in chemicals that attack the nose like an ice pick, inserting bags of slime inside their breasts, sharpening their noses to chipmunk-like points, piercing holes in noses, lips, ears, tongues, eyebrows…
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Some people are cursed with a sort of trap door in their mind. If they fall in love deeply enough, there is no turning back ever, no matter how cruelly their beloved treats them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Some years after I did my main gay lib work, liberationists chastised me for my backward, sexist views. Though I don’t like being bawled out, this is a very good sign. When I wrote, my ideas were far extreme left. I did not know even one person who thought like I did. Then society shifted to the left well beyond my wildest dreams, making my words look reactionary.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sometimes victims of pedophiles like to speak to the media calling for society or the law to crucify their attacker. They are consumed with hate, shame and anger. They can’t get on with their life until the attacker is destroyed. Usually, even that is not enough. When the event occurred when the victim was in his or her late teens, most likely something quite different was in play than when the victim was a child. Here is what I think most often happens. Humans are horniest in their teens. They are willing participants in pretty well any sexual activity. They may seek out adults or anyone/anything else who will respond sexually. However, a few years later they may come under the influence of Christians or other prudes who convince them what was did was the most disgraceful thing imaginable, worse even than torturing a child or killing a Muslim. They feel great shame, and wish they had not indulged. Further, they still feel horny for much the same experiences, but they don’t want to admit it. This leads to self-loathing. They use one or more of their former sex partners as a scapegoat. Their new Christian friends urge them on in the witch hunt. Teens believe in true love and unique soul mates. They often project onto their first sexual experience a follow-on death do us part relationship. When their older partner dumps them, they are shattered and resentful. They become easy pickings for Christians who offer them an illegitimate way to get even.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sometimes wealth gets in the way of finding a relationship. One handsome guy worked hard to become wealthy to attract friends. Then he would lavish acquaintances with gifts such as TVs and stereos, then he fretted the only reason they would hang around was for the gifts. We tried to tell him to stop with the gifts, but he persisted. Another handsome young guy was very wealthy from dealing in diamonds. He was always single because he insisted on a partner who was his age and equally wealthy. He wanted to know he was loved for himself, not his wealth. There were almost no partners to choose from.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Sometimes you regret agreeing to have sex the instant you get a look at your partner in a good light. Sometimes it won’t hit you for days, months or even years later. As you get older, the percentage you consider a bad idea increases.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straight men can’t help but think that gay men secretly find women attractive, but for some inexplicable reason refuse to admit it. Straight women have less of a problem since gay men find the same people attractive that they do. As a gay man, even though I have ample scientific evidence that straight men prefer women, I can’t help but feel they are forcing themselves to pretend to enjoy women out of duty/pressure and to avoid men out of prudery.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straight men complain that after a one-night stand, it is very difficult to get rid of a woman, no matter how bad the sex was. Gay men complain that after a one-night stand, they never see the guy again, no matter how good the sex was.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straight people claim their sexual attraction is ineffable. Yet when I look at movies made for straight people (not just porn), there is nothing special about the attraction at all. The attraction is exactly the same as that of birds and mammals. I think they are unaware of how blatant the sexuality of heterosexual relationships is. Because they are swimming in it, they don’t notice it as such.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straight people have trouble believing we gays are serious. They look on homosexuality as an affectation like a nose ring designed to irritate one’s parents. On the other hand, when I watch a movie and see a young man attracted to a girl, it seems he must be faking the attraction. Usually the female is shallow and boring as a bowl of overboiled vegetables.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straight women in particular are most turned by elegant, expensive surroundings. Gay males tend to be the opposite. Abandoned, dark, run-down places are more exciting, also small remote cabins or campsites. I think it just amounts to gays not wanting to run into straights when they are on the prowl. We gays have had so many centuries of being killed when our cover was blown, we can’t get used to the idea it is no longer necessary to hide.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straight women usually sabotage themselves. How can you take someone seriously, painted like a clown, with a faddish hairstyle stolen from the Westminster Dog Show, shoes designed by the Marquis de Sade, accessorised like a Christmas tree and clothes so constraining the poor woman cannot even bend over? Rebel!
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straights and gays have a quite different attitude to infidelity. Straights carry on as if it were the end of the world, and sometimes end the relationship. They will bring up the incident even years later. Gays usually think little of it. When gays do get upset, they blame their partner, not the third party who probably had no idea the person they picked up was already attached. In contrast, straights often go into a murderous rage at the third party.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straights are unaware that when they talk about pussy, they are just as nauseating as to us gays as when gay gross out straights with details of their sexual fantasies.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Straights fear that if they give gay people equal rights they will be swamped by gay culture. This cannot happen. Gays will forever be a small minority. This is like worrying a creek would overwhelm the Colorado River.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Stubble was once a way for a young man to both advertise and prove his unmarried status, sort of the opposite of a wedding band.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Stubble was once a way to show manly contempt for prissy grooming. Now there are shavers that mow and tame the stubble to precisely measured length, like a finely manicured lawn.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Swagger appeals to gay men. What about everyone else?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Tarnish the Golden Rule

Men and women (and also same sex couples to some extent) never fully believe that their partner wants what they say they do sexually. They insist on thinking their partner really wants what they want for themselves. You have to just close your eyes, trust and monitor your partner’s breathing.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Teen idols like Justin Bieber have amazing political clout. Unfortunately, they have not had the years or time to sort out how to use that power wisely. I would hope they could find someone wiser to advise them, and do something useful with their clout.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Testosterone increases a man’s sex drive. It makes him fight. It makes him a bully. It makes his penis grow. It makes is muscles grow. It makes his face look like a Marine. It makes him promiscuous and selfish. A hunk of man like this may ring your chimes, but he will be a trying life partner. Women instinctively avoid these types as marriage material, even if they find them attractive.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Testosterone makes males fight, dominate and bully each other. It makes them take life-threatening risks. It makes them abandon their mates to seek new ones. The levels of testosterone in human males were optimum for life as a caveman, but might be considered poisonous for an officer in charge of a nuclear arsenal.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

That intense ache you feel on seeing someone breathtakingly beautiful is your genes goading you to brave the almost certain humiliation of rejection for a chance to create superior offspring.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The advantage of having a crush on a Hollywood personality is they will never dump you, never berate you or cut you off from knowing about what they are doing.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The best way to deal with the ache of wanting beautiful boys you cannot have is to keep yourself busy.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The biggest disadvantage to being gay is the almost universal worship of youth and beauty. When you get older, its as though you have leprosy. You just don’t want to be seen in public.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The bigot sees the gay person as someone who, out of spite, pretends to be attracted to someone of the same sex. The bigot can’t see why the gay person complains when the bigot demands that the gay person shape up and admit he has exactly the same desires as the bigot and marry someone of the opposite sex. After all, he would’t mind being limited to opposite sex partners.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The Buddhists correctly tell us that the greatest troubles of life are old age, sickness and death. But when you are 20, you think the worst thing that can happen is not getting laid.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The casting directors for CSI (Crime Scene Investigator) :Miami find more beautiful males than anyone since Pier Paolo Pasolini.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The Catholic priests have such cheek to tell gay people their sex lives are unacceptable when the priests are either pedophilic rapists or they enable the molesters so they can watch.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The coming expiration of don’t ask don’t tell is a mixed blessing. As it is now, a gay soldier (or even a straight one) having an attack of conscience can leave the military just by saying “I’m a ho-mo-sex-ual”. He doesn’t even have to submit to a blow job, just the stigma from a homophobic institution.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The cruelest myth that we teach our children is that everyone has one true soul mate. It is a doubly cruel lie — that their exists a perfect effortless partner, and that if your “true love” dumps you, you are doomed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The easiest way to improve your sexual attractiveness is to improve your odour. Many people have a poor sense of smell, or one than numbs quickly, and pile on colognes to the point they gag others. They imagine they have almost none on. 10 volume hydrogen peroxide will kill the odour-causing bacteria in your mouth and whiten your teeth cheaply to boot. Brushing twice a day will keep the bacteria in your mouth down to a dull roar. Cigarette, cigar and beer smell can be nauseating for others. If you must use perfumes, use ones that smell like something you might eat. They are less likely to be offensive. Your own light body odour has evolved to turn others on. The smell of fabric softener has not.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The elderly lust after the young and beautiful almost as much as anyone else. Yet the young smack them down if they so much as stare.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The feigned fear and nervousness about procrastinating repealing DADT is so disingenuous. It is just disguised bigotry. It is not as though the USA is the first to integrate. 30 other countries have already gone to open service and nothing terrible happened.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The fewer gay friends and acquaintances a bigot has, the more he is convinced he knows all there is to know about homosexuality.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The financial reason for repealing DADT is that 14,000 soldiers were booted out. They might as well have been fatalities. All that money invested in training them went down the drain. Yanking them out of their positions is just as disruptive as if they had been killed.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The first order of business in any sexual encounter is to forget about any more spectacular experience you had in the past. Perhaps that explain the popularity of cannabis as an aphrodisiac.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The fundamental problem with pornographers is they present a smorgasbord of impossibly good looking people. They teach their viewers to constantly seek an ever closer approximation to perfection, discarding previous choices like tissues. In the real world, this strategy is fatal.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The generation gap is really about envy. The young envy the old for their political power. The old envy the young for their lust, energy, beauty and supple bodies.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The goal is to see gay people reflected on TV and in the movies in the same proportion as they occur in real life, showing not just a few stereotypes, but all types of gays in roughly the same proportion they exist in real life. Most of the time the gayness should just be incidental, and unremarkable, as it is in real life. Bigots suppressed blacks by keeping them off TV and out of movies. They attempt to do the same thing with gays. People are not afraid of the familiar, so bigots want to keep us gays part of the scary unknown.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The heterosexual male is obsolete. He is too strongly attracted to violence. Modern weapons have magnified his desires for mayhem to the point he can easily send mankind into extinction. His out-of-control ego blocks every attempt at peace between countries. At some point we are going to have to genetically modify humans to breed out these violent traits or eliminate heterosexual males altogether.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The ideal woman likes to watch football, go camping, hunting and fishing, play sports and hang out with the guys without jealousy. Wouldn’t straight men be happier with a same-sex partner? someone who shared interests?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The important relationship incompatibilities are things like how much food you keep in your fridge that won’t be eaten within five days, how much closet space do you require and how much care to do take to prevent food poisoning.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The kinkiest think I have ever heard of is young men shaving off their hair and becoming willing slaves to abusive old men who order them to kill children and torture people, i.e. join the US military.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The law in North America does not make sense. It allows marriage at 13, sex at 16 and looking at a photograph of a naked 18-year old.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The laws on child pornography contain a number of inconsistencies. In my thinking, the punishment for the crime should be proportional to the actual amount of harm done a child. The important factor to the law is possession. That makes no sense to me. If someone views pornography online or off-line is immaterial. What is important is did the pedophile pay the pornographer to photograph the child? If he did, he has committed a much more serious crime. He is the motive for the abuse. He should be treated as a conspirator who directly committed the crimes against the child. Without that money, the pornographer could not make a living harming kids. Ironically, those that view free pornography or that set up robots to flood the pornographers with requests, incur costs for the pornographers, thus making their businesses less profitable. Ironically, the presence of such people discourages the pornography industry. The other inconsistency is equating fantasy art with actual photos. If fantasy art is created without live models, there is no child to be harmed. It one ridiculous case, a pedophile’s fantasy journal, a written record of his thoughts, was equated in law with pornographic photos. I think the problem is legal minds are so uncomfortable thinking about the child pornography that they fail to double check that their gut reactions are rational.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The longer you have been dead, the less people care how good you looked.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The main reason there are so many sexual psychopaths and serial killers (aka soldiers) in the world is that women find them sexually exciting.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The main thing that attracts others to you is your willingness to love everyone. The main thing that drives people away is your need for others to love you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The main thing that makes me different from other people is that I made a conscious decision never to have children.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The male equivalent of the word slut is stud. The fact that there are separate words, and that the words have such different connotations indicates female equality still has a long way to go.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The male moose proudly displays an ever larger rack of antlers with each passing year. It proves his genetic fitness and sexual desirability. The male human hides his signs of seniority with hair dye and a toupée. This is because younger males are more desirable because they have more years in them to help raise the offspring.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The most basic and hardest lesson is that sex and love are quite different things. Just because you had great sex does not mean he will want anything to do with you the next day. You can also love strongly without any sexual component.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The most disturbing people are the ones that give out mixed attractiveness symbols, e.g. a gym bunny with one of those wispy little beards artfully carved like a topiary bush, or someone with a flawless complexion and a giant mole or filled to bursting pimple, a someone with a beautiful face and a voice that could strip paint.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The most important life skill is being dumped with equanimity.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The most important thing to keep in mind when you are being dumped is that you are not entitled to a warning, an explanation or even the right to have your Christmas cards accepted. Imagining that you have such rights will at least quadruple your pain.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The most important think women need to know about men is that the male ego extends to cover everything he endorses, either explicitly or implicitly. In other words, when you are less than enthusiastic about something a male recommends, or the car he drives, or the cell phone service he chose…, he takes this as a personal insult.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The most universally appealing clothing, hairstyle, makeup, jewelry and adornment is nothing at all.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The notion of ritual untouchability is still used to discriminate against a caste in India and against blacks and gays in the USA. When the military decided to stop discriminating against blacks it told bigots to shape up or ship out. However, when it decided to drop DADT, it gave the option to religious bigots (chaplains) to continue discrimination against gays.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The obesity epidemic is growing so rapidly that even movie idols and people in commercials are also becoming tubbier year by year.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The older generation, especially the religious, are so cruel to teenagers, teaching them to feel ashamed and embarrassed about the perfectly natural and inevitable effects of raging hormones. It is sadistic as fraternity hazing.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The one thing you have in common with nearly everyone in the world is when your first love affair ended, it broke your heart harder than any human ever felt before.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The only Americans who don’t occasionally have sex outside marriage are those so homely or so ill that they get no offers. Yet the news media make a game of pillorying some random celebrity for adultery, pretending they have committed some rare and unforgivable crime.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The polite, accepting and kind Dr. John H. Watson and the way he handles the rambunctious often inconsiderate Dr. Sherlock Holmes is as good as model as any for a successful same-sex relationship.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The Pope has some chutzpah to condemn gays for refusing to breed when that is exactly what he is doing himself.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The primary fantasy outlet of females is the Harlequin romance novel, of males, Internet porn.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The problem in defining child pornography is that it is really is in the eye of the beholder. Even an innocuous advertisement for children’s shampoo can become pornography in the eyes of someone with lustful murderous intent.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The question people commonly ask themselves is “why did he/she leave?” One answer is the hormone PEA that creates a mania people mistake for true love. Your brain secretes it only at the start of a relationship to help you over the hump of adjusting to each other. Your partner was seeking another hit of it. It is not that the competition was any better than you, just newer.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The reasons older people appear much less interested in sex are:

• They are embarrassed about their decrepit bodies.
• Fellow oldsters, the population of possible sex partners, have little more appeal as sex partners than they do to anyone else.
• Hormones stop their relentless pushing.
• Embarrassment over performance.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The Republicans in Texas have not only banned gay marriage, they are calling for making it a felony to perform a gay marriage, and for making sodomy (a generic term for anything but the missionary position between heterosexuals) illegal. Know your enemies and do what it take to defeat them at the polls.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The reward for being a parent is the possibility of being a grand parent.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The right wing Christian bigots claim all hair dressers and music teachers are gay. Further they claim all gay people molest children. Then how come you so rarely hear of a hair dresser or music teacher molesting a child?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The stupidest reason for dumping your partner is because he/she once had sex with someone else. What matters is how they treat you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The term child abuser is so broad it is used primarily as a tool for deception, to make it sound as if someone has done something far worse than they actually did. It can mean someone who spanks their 4 year old child for playing in the street, a 19 year old boy who has sex with his 17 year old girl friend, to a female teacher who succumbs to the seduction of a 18 year old male student, a priest who rapes 10 year olds or a psychopath who abducts, rapes and murders toddlers.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The term statutory rape has nothing to do with rape. The parties involved in a statutory rape are both eager participants. The crime should be called aiding and abetting sexual rebelliousness to more accurately depict the aggrievement of the father or disrespecting Protestant morality to more accurately the depict the aggrievement of the religious right.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The term statutory rape is an odd name for a crime where the only aggrieved party is the girl’s (or is some cases the boy’s) father.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The three most pleasurable things you can do for someone else are to give them a blow job, screw them anally or let them screw you. Yet oddly, the these highly friendly acts are treated in slang as if they were a form of violence or cruelty. Christians consider them the ultimate wicked acts. I think they are nuts. They seem to think to goal of the game of life is to frustrate, belittle and in every possible way make others miserable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The time you most need to do something special for your partner is the time you most want to just get away.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The true problem with pornography is it raises expectations to ever more unrealistic levels. Reality can’t compete.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The two main disadvantages of being gay are:

1. There are millions of Christians who hate you with a passion, who want to kill you or at least make your life as miserable as legally possible, even though you have never met.
2. Even many liberal people can’t help but treat you a like a wet dog. Just as they can’t ignore the fact a dog is wet, they are constantly aware that you are gay and hence perceive you as mildly dangerous no matter what the topic of discussion.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The two most important messages involving sexuality that I want to tell you are:

• Don’t riskHIV. It screws up your life far worse than you would ever imagine.
• If your lover dumps you, especially if they give no warning and no explanation, they will not come back. Don’t waste you time pining. They are no longer a suitable partner for you.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The US Department of justice has greatly expanded the definition of rape to include:

• sexual violence against men
• sex when one partner was “mentally incapacitated” e.g. drunk, stoned, on drugs, mentally ill or retarded.
• when one partner is under legal age.

Here is how I see it:

• I can see adding in sexual violence against men, but not the others. Rape should imply violence. Watering it down with other lesser crimes make a rape mean less.
• Even insects are capable of giving assent to sex. We should not pretend it is the exclusive preserve of high-functioning humans. We should not use it as a back door way to be cruel to retarded people by preventing them from having sex when they are clearly as eager to as anyone else. It is one thing to prevent pregnancy and quite another to deny sexual pleasure. Everyone gives consent to sex after some wine to partners they might otherwise reject. Why do you think men wine and dine their dates? Such a law makes illegal what for millennia has been considered fair play.
• When a barely illegal teen stalks an adult and the adult fails to fight off the advances, that surely is a totally different order of crime from an adult stalking and sexually assaulting the teen. We should not be calling them the same thing.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The USA has surpassed even ancient Rome as the fattest people in the history of the human race. Even performers are now grossly obese. Formerly they had to be ideals of beauty.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The way I see it, racists and homophobes are peas in a pod. They both hide behind religion to cover for their cruelty and viciousness. Even in this day, homophobes are still proud of their affliction. The media still treat them as if their problem were overly scrupulous morality. In reality, they are simple bullies.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The way sexual desire drives me is so humiliating. It is like having a compulsion to bang two rocks together over and over.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The word pedophile means literally “child-liker”. What an inappropriate term for someone who terrorises, traumatises, rapes and kills children! It is also odd that when soldiers commit this crime, we call them freedom fighters instead of pedophiles.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The words for describing how pleasing someone looks have gender. E.g. she is pretty, beautiful or thin. He is handsome, buff or a hunk. They are good looking, appealing, attractive.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The worst possible choice of partner is someone both beautiful and with a strong sense of entitlement. They see the universe (including you) existing solely for the purpose of serving them. You will keep impaling yourself on their condescension.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

The young imagine that the older generation were always much more conservative than they, and that the generation before that was even more conservative. They form this delusion because they never see the older generation as they were as teens.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There are not many activities that heterosexual males and females enjoy together besides sex. Married males are always complaining their wives won’t give them free time with their buddies for sports, hunting, fishing, drinking, hiking, tinkering with cars… Gay couples don’t have this problem.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There are only two times in your life when you properly appreciate just how strongly your hormones control your actions: puberty and old age when the hormone surge subsides.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There are some people I think should be given special dispensation so they would never have to age: Lauren Bacall, Julie Andrews, Michael York, Yannick Bison, Leonardo di Caprio, Matt Damon…
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There are three degrees of adultery:

1. sex causing pregnancy
2. unprotected sex
3. protected sex

People are over-reacting to third degree as if it were first degree. Third degree is a relatively recent invention and we have not adjusted our social norms to deal rationally with it.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There are two main differences between the struggle for womens’ and gay rights. Women can’t hide the fact they are women. Their large numbers were always apparent. In contrast, gays hid and made their numbers look negligible. On the other hand, gay men always had the vote because they were so well camouflaged that there was no way to take it away from them. Gay men have always been able to covertly manipulate the levers of power.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There is a tendency when you are younger to seek a life partner who turns you on something fierce sexually. The catch is that body-perfect will fade, so terribly fast. What sort of personality will be left? That will determine if your relationship is heaven or hell.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There is something psychotic about males who are attracted to prostitutes, use their services, then rail against them and treat them with disdain. Could you imagine men treating their barbers that way?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

There will come a horrible day when you realise you somehow became older than Ethel Mertz.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

This may be cold comfort, but that boy who just dumped you, the one you imagine you need as much as air… With certainty, there will come a time when you think of him less than once a week.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Those who like to castigate the young for their preoccupation with sex have forgotten how youthful hormones pick you up and shake you until your teeth rattle.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Three thousand years ago famine, disease or natural disaster could easily reduce populations to the point an entire village would go extinct. To counter, the moral leaders of the time exhorted people to have as many children as possible. The beliefs became frozen in the religions we live with today. However, today, we have the opposite problem, runaway population growth that is overwhelming earth’s ability to sustain us. Moral leaders in China are now exhorting people to have as few children as possible. As the threat rises we may find the churches advocating homosexuality as highly effective birth control method, and a way to deal with the imbalance of males and females from parents choosing to have only a single male child. Imagine you, as a heterosexual, lived in that world. How would you feel about attempts to cure you to make you fit into a largely homosexual society? Likely, you would assert that nobody has the right to destroy your very identity. That is exactly how we homosexuals feel about meddling Christians and their bogus attempts to cure us.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

To be attracted to physical beauty like a moth to a flame is one of the greatest misfortunes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

To be strongly attracted to someone who is cruel is one of the greatest misfortunes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

To be strongly attracted to someone who shares no interests is one of the greatest misfortunes.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

To help weaken your thralldom to youth and beauty, check out recent photos on the Internet of the sexiest actors 20 years ago. That dazzling beauty is a transient gift.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

To me it is obvious that people of indeterminate gender exist. What is with bureaucrats who deny this reality when designing their forms? Even bigots who think intersexed people have no right to exist surely must acknowledge that they do.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

To what extent should the law intervene in a dispute between a father and daughter over an appropriate time to lose her virginity and with whom?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Trying to convince men infected with HIV to avoid having unprotected sex and infecting women goes against their deep-seated biological urge to fill the universe with copies of their own DNA , damn the consequences to their offspring or anyone else.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Unless you are over 60, it is almost impossible to appreciate that the current crop of 60 year olds were once the hottest teens on the planet.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Watch some guppies, cuttlefish, salamanders, frogs or penguins courting. The males will approach female after female, nearly always getting turned down. The animals don’t make the classic errors that humans do:

• Decide based on a string of rejections that they will forever after be rejected because of inherent unworthiness, and withdraw to sulk. Even one-legged frogs compete as vigorously as they can.
• Postulate there is only one soul-mate female salamander in the universe, and as long as she says no, there is no hope.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We consider it romantic when someone pines for years over a dead or abandoning partner, yet it is even more self destructive than stubbing out cigarettes on one’s arm.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We have gone 63 years with both sides sabotaging the peace process in Palestine. American president Harry Truman used the atomic bomb just out of spite. Ronald Reagan and Barack Obama each risked nuclear war for relatively minor gains. They all come by this behaviour honestly. Males of all species compete for the attentions of females. They can’t help but fight with each other for dominance. The people who rise in political leadership are the most dominant. They are like human pit bulls. (It is also why they have so much trouble with sex scandals. That is just the nature of alpha males.) This suggests we won’t have world peace until male dominance of politics is overthrown.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We have Rogaine to regrow scalp hair and Vaniqua to suppress facial hair. But where are the products to regrow facial hair and suppress scalp hair?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We laugh at the prudishness of yesteryear even though it had a useful function:

• Ensuring all children had two parents to care for them.
• Preventing the spread of sexually transmitted disease.
• Controlling population growth.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We live in a relatively straight-laced society, at least in that our sexual desires are much broader than what is socially permissible. Pornography fills the gap, allowing people to indulge in forbidden pleasures without actually committing them. We censor pornography at our peril. We could leave people no other way to let off steam than acting out.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We really ought not to sniff at the male tendency to seek partners who are prime in health and beauty and of females who seek partners who are wealthy. These apparently crass strategies are proven through millions of years of evolution.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

We tend to poke fun at people who are fixated on getting laid, yet evolutionary biologists tell us that reproduction is the only intrinsic purpose of life for all animals including humans.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What changes in the modern world affecting sexual selection are different from the conditions under which we evolved?

• Women can now raise children without male help given government aid.
• Men who are wealthy can now help raise children even when they are absent or dead.
• Working women now have less time to care for their children. To properly care for their children, they need money to pay others to supervise their children.
• Birth control now means mainly people who want children have them.

I think this means handsome male promiscuous charmers, and wealthy older men will rise in perceived attractiveness. Women who like children will become more desirable than women who like sex.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What is the meaning of the frozen exaggerated smile that beauty queens love to flash? “I’m rich. I can afford a perfect smile, and you can’t.”
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What kind of message are you teaching your children when you encourage them to abandon their old friend Teddy, now worn and one-eyed for a pretty new companion.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What on earth possesses people to put makeup on their eyelids to mimic a shiner? Why that black goo on their eyelashes that looks like a terminal disease? Why that foul-smelling red slime on their lips? It stops me dead in my tracks even when the prettiest guy wears it. How do heterosexual males manage to stay heterosexual when its use is almost universal by females?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What passes for monogamous virtue is actually just lack of opportunity. Fat, bald men don’t get propositions from the young and beautiful. We don’t expect monogamy from rock stars, movies actors or handsome princes. We should similarly not expect it from trim, handsome husbands (gay or straight). It is simply one of the unavoidable disadvantages of having a universally attractive spouse.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What really ticks me off about the Republicans is that they put all those anti-gay measures on the ballots just to draw their bigoted base to the polls to vote for the Republican candidates. It was not even honest hatred of gays. They threw gays under the bus just to get a few votes. Doing that stimulated gay bashings, perhaps a murder or two. The Republicans, especially Ken Mehlman, take no responsibility for the consequences of selling hate.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

What you want most in a long term partner is to be able to trust they will stick with you through thick and thin. How do you tell? How do they treat their friends, ex’s and family? Are they self centered? Do they expect the universe to revolve around them? Are they absolutely stubborn even on minor issues?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When a child has a cell phone, the parents have no idea whom the child is talking to, unlike with a land line.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When a lover leaves you it is not so much he is rejecting you as being attracted away by someone else. It is not the end of the world that you are not the world’s most attractive person.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When I look back over the decades, I cringe most at the times when I was in the presence of a guy I was terribly keen on who had no interest in me or who no longer had any interest in me.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When I see a straight male in stunned attention staring at some female dressed like a prostitute, plastered in makeup, making crude gestures, I difficult to believe he is not faking his attraction. I shiver in disgust, but then I am gay. It is more revolting than if he were contemplating coitus with a wart hog.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When I see young people being swept by a tidal wave of hormones, I feel embarrassed that once I too had so little self control, but at the same time wish it could happen again.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When I was in my early twenties, I launched three gay lib projects. I figured I had less than one in a million chance they would make any noticeable difference. After all, when I started, everyone, even my family, my friends and the gay people were opposed to me. I did them just because it felt better to put up some resistance than give up. They succeeded far beyond my wildest dreams. I thought, ending hunger, world nuclear disarmament, stopping resource wars, saving the environment etc. should be a piece of cake in comparison. This turned out not to be so. I have found it difficult managing the frustration, anger and despair. I need to recreate my original detachment to results to be effective. Gandhi put it this way: “It’s the action, not the fruit of the action, that’s important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there’ll be any fruit. But that doesn’t mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result.”
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When men marry bimbos what are they thinking? Have they thought even for a second what life chained to a drooling idiot with a squeaky voice would be like?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When parents teach their children to unconditionally obey authority figures, they can be setting them up for sexual abuse. Kids must be taught they have every right to rebuff the sexual advances of any adult, including clergy, coaches, teachers, doctors… and that it is completely safe to get help preventing a recurrence.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you are courting, don’t be on too much on best behaviour. You may trick a partner who won’t be able to endure your faults.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you are courting, keep in mind whatever faults you detect in your partner will be magnified greatly later when they let their guard down.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you are younger, it is most important that others want to have sex with you. When you are older, it is most important that others agree with you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you consider becoming lovers with someone, check out how far into the closet you both are. It can be a terrible source of tension if you don’t match.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you encounter an individual who makes your teeth sweat, makes you shiver and bite your hand in lust, you have just unconsciously computed that your genes merged with theirs would create an individual with optimal survival and reproductive success. Your genes are screaming “Go for it!”
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you hold out for someone with fashion model looks for an one night stand, just what are you up to? You are not looking for great genes to breed. You are not about to parade your conquest as a trophy. Just why does it matter so acutely?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you study history its seems almost unimaginable how badly our ancestors behaved. Future generations will look on the current American generation as backward, stupid, ignorant, vicious and superstitious as any witch burner for the way the treated gays during the AIDS epidemic.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When you were studying lions in grade 2, I strongly suspect they neglected to tell you that lions do not form monogamous pair bonds like humans, but shack up with several males and several females and got at it all day in all combinations.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When young people seek a mate, they are primarily looking for an exciting sex partner. When parents arrange marriages for their children, they are at least considering long term compatibility.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When your lover dumps you, talk to yourself like this “He was incredible. Then he changed. He’s not quite so incredible now. I got to enjoy him while he peaked.”
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When your lover dumps you, there is a tendency to do one of two stupid things:

1. Put him on a pedestal and imagine he was the most wonderful human being who ever lived, and thus you cannot possibly ever meet another his equal.
2. Villainise him and berate yourself for being so stupid as to ever get involved with the world’s biggest bastard.

You may even flip back and forth between the two extreme views. The truth is he was just someone who on the surface looked compatible but was not.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

When your partner makes escalating, non-negotiable demands, steel yourself. They are preparing to leave you soon.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Where to people get the idea they can treat their partners with less politeness and respect than they treated their roommates, and expect them to hang around?
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Who do gay bashers think they are fooling? The only parts of the bible they read are about homosexuality. They prefer the company of athletic young males to female company and they stalk gay males to shout at them about the evils of homosexuality, then beat them for transgressing the sin they so wish to commit themselves.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Why do Americans hate gays so much? Despite their technological and military achievements, America is a backward and superstitious country. The media pander to these superstitions, for example treating ghosts, witches, angels, gods and ESP as established fact and ridiculing doubters. This exposure reinforces the superstitions.Leviticus 18:22 is an Old Testament verse ordering Christians to kill all the gays. Most Christians have never actually read Leviticus, just heard this cherry picked quotation. If they did, they would discover Leviticus hates nearly everyone and orders them all killed. Homosexuality is a very popular sin, since most people have no temptation to commit it, and smug Christians can safely be as nasty as they like to the sinners. It gives them a scapegoat. Churches preach this verse, knowing full well that killing gays is illegal, and in Canada that hate speech inciting murder is illegal. However, thugs hear them, and beat and up and kill gays, again feeling virtuous about it. Others are merely spiteful, again feeling smugly virtuous about it.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Why do males want to have a 30.48 cm (12 in) penis? They imagine it would guarantee them sex, love and companionship no matter how badly they behaved.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Why do opposites attract? Why do incompatible people marry? They are attempting to improve the lot of their offspring my balancing out their own genetic shortcomings. They want to complete their skill set for child rearing.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Why would a male choose to become a female? It is an invitation for getting beat up. It is much harder to find a partner. You have to waste hours trying to dress and pass as a woman. The operation is painful. Similarly why would anyone choose to be gay? You can lose your job. You can get beat up. You are officially a second class citizen in the eyes of the law. Christians phone you up at all hours and threaten to kill you.

The answer is simple. Nobody chooses this. This is simply the way you are. You have no more choice in the matter than you have over your height. You have to live with it no matter how much you might wish it were otherwise. You simply have to put up with all the crap people throw at you for being slightly out of the ordinary.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Women and men resent each other because they are attracted not to what the other is, but to what the other has — namely a pay cheque and vagina.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Women spend thousands of dollars each year on cosmetics and treatments to give the illusion they don’t smile, frown or worry. They have bought the strange notion that appearing vacant is sexually alluring. They are trying to imitate a doll.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Women trick men into thinking they are prolific lactators by having breast implants installed. The effect is just the opposite, and also impairs general health. I wonder how long it will take for Darwinian selection to catch on to the deception.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You are in for a very nasty surprise if you can’t tell the difference between:

• A strong desire to have sex with someone.
• Delicious sensations in your penis or in your anus.
• Love.

~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You can tell it has been mostly males involved in space exploration. There is so much junk now orbiting earth, it keeps smashing into the satellites and disabling them. Similarly, Mount Everest and Mount Fuji are buried in litter.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You have to decide which is more important, that your partner be exceptionally good looking or that they stick with you for a long time. If you pick a partner much better looking than you, there will always be others whispering in their ear that they could do better than you.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You know your sex life is over when people 20 years younger than you are too old to consider as sex partners.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You might think that rapists are people who attracted to people who say no. I was puzzled on noticing that rapists are often physically quite attractive. They should have little problem finding sexual partners. I think the explanation is that rapists enjoy bullying, terrifying and hurting people.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You never see a male animal (other than a human) seeking a mate by pining over a potential partner who has repeatedly rejected him, or utterly discouraged because the only one possible soul mate for him is unavailable.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You probably want to avoid a partner who is unusually jealous. Don’t mistake jealousy for affection or loyalty. They imagine you are constantly scanning for extra curricular activity because they are. They will eventually drive you crazy with their paranoia and rudeness to people they imagine are rivals.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You probably want to avoid a partner who has an inflated opinion of themselves, who thinks of themselves as royalty everyone should wait on. As time progresses their looks will fade and their sense of entitlement, demands to be pampered and to be the focus of attention will escalate. Perry Mason female villains are usually of this type.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

You rarely see two men dancing, unless they are pretending to hit each other with sticks.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Young heterosexual people have sex in public all the time, in Greyhound buses, in bus shelters, in alleys… They French kiss on the streets, parks, shopping malls in broad daylight. In contrast, you will have a tough time observing even hand holding between gays. They select deserted places, late at night far away from crowds or places behind locked doors. Both, of course, gyrate wildly at Mardi Gras and Gay Pride festivals, but that is the exception. Yet, oddly, Christians seem to think gay people are far less discreet than straight.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Young people have the mistaken notion that as you get older, the age of your sexual fantasies rises. The age of who says yes rises, so that is who you pair up with, but young people look just as attractive as they ever did no matter how old you get. Young people fight off the unwanted attention from adoring oldsters with repellants like nose rings, purple hair, valley speak, hammer music (music that sounds like someone forging a barbecue) and home-made tattoos. The young are immune to them.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Your ex has the legal right never to speak to you again, never to see you again, to refuse mail and never to give any explanation for what changed their opinion of you. Whether you would ever consider behaving this way is immaterial.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Your sex life ends, not when your plumbing fails, but when the intersection of the set of people you find sexually appealing and the set of people who find you sexually appealing dwindles to the null set.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Youthful good looks belong in the same category as blossoms, butterflies, seafood and appliance warranties.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

“He left me for another
’tis a common tale but true”
is a couple of lines from the folk song Lemon Tree. Memorise them. The biggest roadblocks to recovering from getting dumped is thinking what happened to you is unique in world history and there exists no other possible lover. No matter how it feels, this horrible experience is more common that breaking a bone. It is just the painful way life works to help you find a more compatible partner.
~ Roedy (born: 1948-02-04 age: 64)

Cruelty is, in theory, a perfectly adequate ground for divorce, but it may be interpreted so as to become absurd.
~ Bertrand Russell (born: 1872-05-18 died: 1970-02-07 at age: 97)

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
~ William Shakespear (born: 1564-04-23 died: 1616-04-23 at age: 52) Hamlet Act III scene ii

The sex relation is not a personal relation. It can be irresistibly desired and rapturously consummated between persons who could not endure one another for a day in any other relation.
~ George Bernard Shaw (born: 1856-07-26 died: 1950-11-02 at age: 94)

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.
~ George Bernard Shaw (born: 1856-07-26 died: 1950-11-02 at age: 94)

If you listen to your momma
You won’t ever have no fun.
~ Chris Smither (born: 1944-11-11 age: 67) Don’t Call Me Stranger

Plaisir d’amour ne dure qu’un moment
chagrin d’amour dure toute la vie.

The joys of love are but a moment long,
the pain of love endures the whole life long.

~ Plaisir d”amour folk song

I loved him. It didn’t seem right to lie about that.
~ Donald Strachey played by Chad Allen (born: 1974-06-05 age: 37) in Shock To The System a gay soldier explaining why he told the truth when the army interrogated him about his sexual preferences.

Why does a woman work ten years to change a man’s habits and then complain that he’s not the man she married?
~ Barbra Streisand (born: 1942-04-24 age: 69)

Being gay is harder than being black. I didn’t have to come out black. I didn’t have to tell my parents about what its like to be black.
~ Wanda Sykes (born: 1964-03-07 age: 47), gay black comic.

Bigotry tries to keep truth safe in its hand with a grip that kills it.
~ Rabindranath Tagore (born: 1861-05-07 died: 1941-08-07 at age: 80)

I don’t think President Bush is doing anything at all about AIDS . In fact, I’m not sure he even knows how to spell AIDS.
~ Elizabeth Taylor (born: 1932-02-27 died: 2011-03-23 at age: 79)

If most men and women were forced to rely upon physical charm to attract lovers, their sexual lives would be not only meager but in a youth-worshiping country like America painfully brief.
~ Gore Vidal (born: 1925-10-03 age: 86)

Marriage is like putting your hand into a bag of snakes in the hope of pulling out an eel.
~ Leonardo da Vinci (born: 1452-04-15 died: 1519-05-02 at age: 67)

I used to be Snow White, but I drifted.
~ Mae West (born: 1893-08-17 died: 1980-11-22 at age: 87)

I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for their intellects. A man cannot be too careful in the choice of his enemies.
~ Oscar Wilde (born: 1854-10-16 died: 1900-11-30 at age: 46)

Who, being loved, is poor?
~ Oscar Wilde (born: 1854-10-16 died: 1900-11-30 at age: 46)

Marriage equality dose not diminish the worth of your relationships; it simply recognises the worth of ours.
~ Penny Wong (born: 1968-11-05 age: 43), Australian finance minister

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