A Guide For the Naïve Homosexual
Where To Find Gays
As a result of this, a young homosexual will probably spend several years
engaged in fruitless and frustrating attempts to overcome
disability. To add to his misery, he has been told again and
again that he is evil and that his desires
are perverted and that he will come to a
The result, of course, is that he embarks on a new round of repression,
this time consciously. convinced he is abnormal and sick, the young
homosexual attempts to cure himself. He may force himself into
heterosexual relationships, even to the extent of getting married, but
usually he just sits and stews. if this period is prolonged it can he the
source of severe psychological problems, but normally no lasting damage is
done. During one op his saner moments the young homosexual finally decides
that he has had quite enough of trying to cure himself: what he needs now
is sex! He will try to seduce one of his friends (if ten of them are gay
he will pick the eleventh!!); he will haunt the back rows of movie
theatres and spend fours removing used chewing gum from his shoes): or
work out at the
YMCA (Young Men’s Christian Association)
for hours (which will probably do him a great deal of good, but what he is
looking for is sex.)
Where To Find Gays
There are 5 general types of places to meet young homosexual guys:
- cruising places
- steam baths
- gay bars
- private parties
- private social clubs
- cruising means walking about a place that
homosexual guys frequent, staring at and looking over the good-looking
guys and hoping to pick one up for one-time sex. Cruising places are
usually out of doors, but sometimes they are inside restaurants, bus
stations, or rest rooms. Any park in the centre of a reasonably large
city — preferably not too well lit and with lots of bushes and
near water — is nearly always a cruising place at night. The
grounds around the legislative building in any Canadian capital city is
always a cruising place. The
in any city is always a place where gay people stay when visiting a
- steam baths usually consist of:
- a steam room that smells of sweaty and sexually excited bodies.
- Showers where guys get a good look at one another.
- labyrinths of corridors flanked by vacant-faced people wearing
nothing hut towels standing immobile at the doors of their little
1.83 × 2.44 metres (6 × 8 ft) rooms they have
rented in anticipation for the evening.
They are something that you would think could only exist in the
imagination of a man like Fellini; they are something to be seen, but
- gay bars are like any other bars and are
governed by the same archaic liquor laws. The clientèle is
usually mixed: some gay, some straight, but in eastern Canadian cities
these function like the private social clubs of western Canada.
- private parties can range from a bridge game
to a full-blown orgy. Older and professional people tend to stick to
house parties as these are the least publics way of meeting people, but
of course you will not be invited to one unless some gay person knows
you and knows you are gay. This is probably the most enjoyable form of
gay life — at any rate certainly the most varied. You will find
that having a group of nay friends who share your interests is much more
important than sex.
- private social club is really a misnomer as
these places are neither private nor clubs. They are called that to get
around certain liquor laws. They are night clubs that require a
membership card to get in. This way the management can select the type
of cliental it wants.
I would not recommend any of the first 3
places for the following reasons :
- Grubs hang out in a lot of them.
- Straight people hang out in a lot of them and it can prove very
embarrassing to try to pick up a straight person.
- You will probably be so nervous that the gay people present will think
you are straight and wills ignore you.
- You will catch a venereal disease or crab lice.
- You will get beaten up or robbed.
- You will meet people who treat other humans as masturbating machines.