When a husband physically or psychologically abuses his wife, we all cheer when she gets away from him. We even donate money to organisations to help. When parents physically, sexually or psychologically abuse children, we cheer when the child stands up to them and escapes the toxic family. We are happy when a girlfriend or boyfriend dumps an abusive partner.

However, we often insist that gay children or adult gay children put up with abuse from parents. They should not feel guilty about cutting parents off entirely. We should encourage them to do that. It is not their job to bring their parents around to a more enlightened attitude, any more than a sexually abused child’s job is to reform the parent.

~ Roedy (1948-02-04 age:69)